# Fatigue flare... - Relax! **URL:** \ **Category:** Symptoms & Treatments\ **Created:** [September 24, 2025, 10:16am UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/fatigue-flare-relax/14651 "2025-09-24T10:16:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![JayCS](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.livingwithfibro.org/jaycs/32/9520_2.png) [@JayCS](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/JayCS)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2025, 10:16am UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/fatigue-flare-relax/14651/1 "2025-09-24T10:16:18Z")
I just caught myself tensed up while disinfecting my bird baths and feeding bowls… That increases fatigue with feeling sick/ill plus slight nausea and pain, mainly after the tension resolves: post exertional malaise. In many situations I’ve learnt to relax unconsciously, so don’t need to remember. But some I do, and being in a fatigue flare for a few weeks, I need to remember this more. Yesterday I needed to talk with a phone company, and was surprised how well it went altho it was 15 minutes, usually well above my limit. But I remember I was in a relaxed mode, was well prepared, wary / aware that this could get to be a trigger. Shows that semi-conscious relaxing helped. 2 weeks ago I had to talk with them too, it was 25 minutes, very nice person, but I wasn’t prepared and didn’t remember to relax. That was then first part of a double trigger, of which the second part was 35 minutes talk therapy trying to help get over a semi-traumatic trigger 2 weeks before that. So I’m writing to remind myself - and us all? - to relax more consciously again. Anyone the same?