Hi guys! I miss y'all so much that i hope Y'all had very good christmas. I know i late but still Merry Chritmas. Soory did come to thse sithusband was talk his knee surgery and who going to care for me. But as in so much pain in Septemember dealing with my son and his father,and try to keep my husband from getting mad. well.I was sit on my couch and got a letter from child support tell me i must show up.. After i got the let my son's dad call as did i get a letter,which i said yes. He ask me what it said,and i said same as you.well, he told me i never love him ,but i marry himbecause of our son. But every dime a made went on them, cooking breakfast, lunch, dinner,and he was beating on me. The srraw that did it was when another female told he had a baby by her. So i Leftwent ST. Louis to get my life together. when we came back i just told help me withhis son. Son my son sent a nnight and his new baby mother slept in her car because my son was thier. now going back to cilh support I went,but he did, so he calll his son and threat him harm to him,and me. my husband hear everything he said to and my hhusband told him don't threat my wife. well. couples he text me his son number. i told him no ta is down way better then last here when you was in his life, and then he said i lied on him and my husband say i heard you though the phon. i make my son deccide who hendeals with,but his dad i took him. his grandma came and drop off his gift, and his out said on the weekend. my son did ask about his dad and i don't push him,because he start acting out. should i have did something different? because i am having a fibro flare , because i stress about my son and him shut is feel in.
Hi Glenedia. Child support issues can be very, very frustrating. Many a tear has been shed on them. The simple reality is this: the non-custodial parent must pay child support for the child. It doesn't matter who loved who or who did what. The child needs to be supported financially, so he/she has a roof over his head, food in his mouth and clothes to wear. It's wrong for your ex to threaten harm to his son and you could rightly call the police and get the courts involved. This kind of talk can really mess with a kid's mind, not to mention put you into a major flare. In fact, all of the child support stuff could put you into a major flare.
Next time, the correct thing to do is to NOT jump to the bait that your ex throws up at you. I tell you this through experience. All you need to do is quote the wording of the legal child support document. The moment your ex goes off, hang up. Any threats get directed to the police. If you have a lawyer, tell them what has transpired and let them deal with your ex. Your ex won't like this and will try to wrangle emotions and control from you but if you don't jump to the bait, then you're not going to get pulled into this again.
If you truly think your ex could be violent, however, then don't do this. Consult someone familiar with domestic abuse. I don't want anything to happen to you or your son. You both deserve to be safe and secure.
I hope that you're well and your ex has piped down again.
Hugs,
Petunia
Glenedia , I’m so sorry you have had such a hard time with this… All you can do is protect your son from harm, just keep loving him and doing your best …
Don’t let your Sons father try and put any guilt on you
Your son is entitled to financial support from his father, and if his father is not a healthy roll model for your son, don’t let him go… Your sons safety is more important than anything
I know how hard it is to deal with a dumb dumb x-, hang in there !
Hugs & blessings
We have missed you Glenedia! I am so sorry to hear that your life is in such an uproar. This has to be very difficult for everyone, my heart especially goes out to you and your son. I hope things can get squared away very soon, and that everyone can just 'get along' for the child's sake.
Wishing you well, sending a big hug for both of you,
SK