# Update **URL:** \ **Category:** What's New With You?\ **Created:** [December 21, 2015, 5:21am UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765 "2015-12-21T05:21:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![SaraZ553](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.livingwithfibro.org/saraz553/32/3401_2.png) [@SaraZ553](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/SaraZ553)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2015, 5:21am UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765/1 "2015-12-21T05:21:26Z")
Hi, I've taken a break from this site for several months, but feel I am ready to return to this supportive, caring and welcoming place : ) The primary issue I've been dealing with lately is stress related to work. Over 3 months ago, a new supervisor was hired. To say the least, she is very intolerable. I am a very independent worker primarily because I am driven, motivated and don't need a lot of direction or guidance. This has also been noted in my bi-annual reviews. Despite the reputation I have built at work, my new supervisor continues to micro-manage, demean and make her insecurities very apparent. She is making life at work difficult with an already challenging job. Because of the stress at work, I haven't been able to practice adequate self care. The inflammation, pain, depression and anxiety have been at the worst I have ever experienced. I work in a large bureaucratic system and effecting change is next to impossible. I've considered taking FMLA leave but my husband and I cannot afford it financially right now. When chronic pain hits, being grumpy and irritable are common, including less tolerance to deal with day to day occurrences that are stressful. I would say that some time off would do me some good, but I would just go back into the same situation upon return from leave. Luckily, I have Christmas Eve through 12/28/15 off. I'm looking forward to a break. In my experience, stress causes the worst Fibro and Arthritis flares for me. My question is, how do I control the stress when I feel like everything that is causing my stress is out of my control? Sara ---
**Author:** ![Greg2](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.livingwithfibro.org/greg2/32/2300_2.png) [@Greg2](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/Greg2)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2015, 9:10pm UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765/2 "2015-12-21T21:10:33Z")
Hi Sara, you may have already tried this but I find that meditation and subliminal audio helps me when most other methods don’t There are a lot of these kind of apps on the apple App Store and I am sure also on the google store. Check them out. Good luck and Merry Christmas! ---
**Author:** ![Dyana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Dyana](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/Dyana)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 4:15am UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765/3 "2015-12-22T04:15:03Z")
Hi Sara I’m so happy to see that you’re back. I wondered what happened to you when I didn’t see anymore posts. I don’t really have any advice but please know that I am thinking of you and hope that you can find some answers that will make things better and more manageable for you. Take care. Blessings, Dyana ---
**Author:** ![Mandy](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.livingwithfibro.org/mandy/32/3398_2.png) [@Mandy](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/Mandy)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2015, 6:33am UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765/4 "2015-12-22T06:33:00Z")
I am glad you are back.Sorry that you are stressed and are having a hard time of it..I am sorry that i have nothing toi contribute but my thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![SaraZ553](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.livingwithfibro.org/saraz553/32/3401_2.png) [@SaraZ553](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/SaraZ553)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 5:01pm UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765/5 "2015-12-26T17:01:21Z")
Thank you, will try : ) Merry Christmas! Greg said: > Hi Sara, you may have already tried this but I find that meditation and subliminal audio helps me when most other methods don't There are a lot of these kind of apps on the apple App Store and I am sure also on the google store. Check them out. Good luck and Merry Christmas! ---
**Author:** ![SaraZ553](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.livingwithfibro.org/saraz553/32/3401_2.png) [@SaraZ553](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/SaraZ553)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 5:02pm UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765/6 "2015-12-26T17:02:25Z")
Hi Dyana, Thank you and blessings being sent to you : ) Sara Dyana said: > Hi Sara > I'm so happy to see that you're back. I wondered what happened to you when I didn't see anymore posts. I don't really have any advice but please know that I am thinking of you and hope that you can find some answers that will make things better and more manageable for you. Take care. > Blessings, Dyana ---
**Author:** ![SaraZ553](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.livingwithfibro.org/saraz553/32/3401_2.png) [@SaraZ553](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/SaraZ553)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 5:03pm UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765/7 "2015-12-26T17:03:19Z")
Hi Queen, Thank you : ) Hugs, Sara Queenpink said: > I am glad you are back.Sorry that you are stressed and are having a hard time of it..I am sorry that i have nothing toi contribute but my thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![BaltimoreBaby](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/forum.livingwithfibro.org/baltimorebaby/32/1254_2.png) [@BaltimoreBaby](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/u/BaltimoreBaby)\ **Post date:** [February 24, 2016, 4:36am UTC](https://forum.livingwithfibro.org/t/update/5765/8 "2016-02-24T04:36:12Z")
Hi, Sara. How’re you doing, hon? Please send an update. You are missed. Laurie