Hi Rose - be assured - I can’t see a single error!
Oh wow, like that doubles it all…
And shouting: I know these were probably tricky scary situations for him, but was that the only possibility he had left? 
I can imagine the sight problems, cos a neighbour of ours needs her other eye done, but her cancer, regular fever bouts and various severe infections are postponing the operation…
Suggestions to get thru hard periods sounds like you’re asking for mental strategies…?
Not the time now to learn completely new concepts, but praps you’re familiar with some that you can dust off and re-try? Like…
My main one is the mindset of “radical acceptance” as a management and coping strategy, don’t know how much we’ve talked about that, and if that’s something you’d want to get into. Acceptance and commitment therapy, ACT, is a variant form of CBT that focuses on this, very based on mindfulness and detaching, less on control than just noticing what’s happening. What it does is help make sure that we don’t have added emotional suffering due to the physical suffering. Altho I already have this mindset, so don’t “suffer from my suffering”, I’m now doing an online course here, to think and practice it further. Can’t say I need it or am learning anything much new myself, but there are a few things. Interesting and good that it is now being offered on prescription here because this course is being used as a study and the insurances have agreed to pay for it because they’ve decided it’s effective enough.
Here is an old thread on this here…:
And this one is in a similar vein:
Authors that have done this sort of stuff are Jon Kabat-Zinn, Peter Levine, Tara Brach and it’s been used for instance by “Lady Gaga” and got many studies saying it helps…