Dealing with unsupportive family

So currently (and until September) I live with my parents and two sisters. My mother and father are always very good to me, and I know they feel bad about giving me a genetic predisposition for things like fibro. I'm very happy about how supportive and kind my parents are. My sisters, though, are another story entirely.

One of them is my twin, she is actually very nice, but she has a tendency to put her foot in her mouth. I know that she doesn't really understand what is going on with me all the time. She is going to start a doctorate of physical therapy program in August, I'm hoping she is going to start to understand me better then. She is always kind when I explain things, but it doesn't always seem to stick. She is definitely the more manageable of my two sisters.

The main problem is my older sister. She is, in one word, horrid. I have to drive her to work every morning for at least another month. She can't go two minutes without complaining about me shaking my leg or twitching or something (my fibro has really screwed with my nerves, so I have Restless Leg Syndrome and a lot of twitches). She knows I can't control it at all, but she still scolds me endlessly. I just don't know how to deal with her. She even does the classic "just take magnesium so it'll stop" (I already take magnesium along with a bunch of other vitamins and medications). I just don't know how I'm going to make it through the month with her. She totally doesn't understand anything about my life, or the fact that I can't control my nerves.

Most of this is just me venting my frustrations. If any of you have any suggestions on how to deal with her I would be open to it.

Hello Butyoure so young,

It always makes me sad,when I hear about the struggles our members have with their families, and feel so sorry for you. We have enough to deal with! Having said that, this is so tricky for anyone to understand - you couldn't make it up! So, in a way it is understandable. The best advice I can offer (and I am sorry I don't have answers), educate family as best you can, there are a few things on-line, like letter from a fibromyalgia sufferer, or 'the spoon theory'. Both explain in a very understandable way. ( Incidentally, I prefer fibro warrior, rather than sufferer). Also look after yourself in the best way for you, and you are able to deal with her from a better position. Do you have to drive her? If it is too much for you, maybe talk about it with your parents. From my experience, my family are grown up, and I have grandkids, they are supportive, but still don't 'get it'.Despite my best efforts. I have to be firm and say no,often!

I hope the rant has helped, and maybe that's all you needed to do, and we are here for you any time. Wish you well.

Take care, Anne