I must add to this discussion. I usually like to wash up todays dishes, today. But it is almost impossible to do that any more. So finally I finished them all up. I've been doing a little at time and still can't keep up. Wow I really could use a dishwasher. I just don't get it though. It is only me and my son living here and every dish is in the sink and every spoon, fork ( big ones and little ones ) including plastic storage containers and my frying pans. All of it just appears in my sink. And my fridge is still bare.
Hi Surfishgir,
That only explanation for my sink being full must be that my son is snacking and having meals outside of the ones I prepare. He will take out large dinner plates for a handful of pretzels.
Now I"m not counting who's turn it is to do the dishes but I believe my son has been skipping out on his turn lately. Gonna have to have a talk.... :-)
I am working on stage 1 turn the faucet on and rinse them. I get stuck on that one myself
I would love to hear more on this topic. My husband and I argue all the time. I am 44 with a 3 year old and a 7 year old and no outside help. I don’t know if my husband and i are going to make it. He has been on my case about not keeping up with meals our making my daughter’s lunch for school. We don’t have sex anymore and he’s crabby all the time. I constantly have to remind him that i can’t do it all. Plus I’m a neat freak and can’t let it go and then my energy is spent. How does anyone stay together with this?
LOL, That is one trick I taught my son from when he was little, at least rinse the dishes and utensils off if your not going to wash them, it helps tremendously. Now that my son is an adult, he spends much time away from home. I don't want to sound like I don't care about my son, but it sure has been a nice break with him not being home for a couple of days. It's like my own space and free time. LOL, LaLaLaLaLa.........
I'm going coconunutssss.......
My focus with my son has been getting his bedtime routine to become a habit. I have to remind him all the time and yet when I am out he does it all by himself. I had my weekend to myself(dad took him) and I thought I would miss him but instead I totally enjoyed the break. It does not happen often so it feels like a treat when it happens
Hi Nikki,
I wish I could answer that for you. Maybe my problem solving skills need tweaking but I caved in and decided to leave. I am divorced and struggling with my solutions to keeping up with the care of my son. My ex runs a neat and tidy ship (his little apartment) I am able to relax a little.i still have my own internal pressure to do a better job at whatever I am doing. I read in a few different researches fibromyalgia patients tend to be perfectionist. I will take it as a compliment.
Hi Gaila,
One of my friends noticed that my complaint of housework was really a cry for help. She jumped in to help me out. She felt obliged because I was babysitting her sons for the past 6 months. She has been a life saver. Before I went on vacation earlier this week I did my best to clean most of the house. I had been feeling better with the recent increase of my gabapentin. However some areas were left untouched. I asked her to feed my birds and fish for a few days. When I returned she had tackled my living room and it looked great. I was so happy. I am going to have her come in every week.
Hello Member,
I know how you feel when it comes to housework. Housework can be hard on it’s own but when you have Fibro it makes it much harder. Somedays I try to do a little and somedays I can’t do anything. Don’t worry I’m pretty sure no ones house is perfect. I have dust bunnies too lol. Just do what you can when you can but don’t over do it. In the end it’s really not worth it. Hugs Sabrina
Thank you Sabrina.
Sometimes it just helps to know there are others who struggle with daily activities. So many of the responses I have received helped so much. A little suggestion there and there goes a long way. Even a hug helps a lot.
Since my original posting my prescrition has changed. The neurologist increased my gabapentin a few weeks ago and somehow the dosage increase has helped. I am not sure if it has increased my energy level or reduced my symptoms of depression. It is hard to explain to others how depression can impact one's perception and energy level. You can really walk around in a fog, but add the back pain, and forget it. I am suffering from spinal stenosis as well. The lower back pain can be excruciating. With the advice of members from this support group I have decided to get an epidural. I hope it will help for a good few months
I’m sorry you and all of us are going thru such hard times. I sure hope that the epidural works for you. Let us know if it helps you. Sending a big ol hug your way. Feel better! Lots of hugs Sabrina
Thank you Sabrina Hugs and more hugs