Can someone tell me if the greif from losing mom 2 months ago, ever get easier? I have never ever felt such loss and pain!
Jackie, I lost my mom several years ago. It was very difficult, but time has helped and I do feel alot better. I also saw a counselor to help process the grief as I was stuck for awhile and needed to talk about it with someone.
Please know also if you ever need her, your Mom is with you in your heart. You can find her there always.
Hugs,
Laurie
Hello Jackie,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Losing your Mum is a big thing. I lost my Mum for coming up 9 years now. I was able to nurse her till the end, when she suffered a brain tumour. It was the most wonderful and the hardest thing I have ever done. Even tho' I know I did the right thing by her, the pain has never gone away, and it never will. What I do now, when the pain comes, is try to think of happy scenarios, helps a little bit. For you, in my opinion, it is early days, and you have a way to go. Eventually you will learn to cope, and things will feel easier. Good luck.
Take care, Anne
Jackie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I can say that for me, time did help to heal my wounded heart when my Dad passed away in 1995. I still miss him, but I know he is in a much better place. You will always miss your mother, but in time, you will hurt quite a bit less. You will be able to think of her with smiles instead of tears.
HUGS from Deb
My Mom died 11 yrs ago, she became an Angel on Thursday, November 11th, we had the funeral on my wedding anniversiry the 13th & altho I thot it would hurt most on those days, it is her BDay August 28th that hurts the worstest.
It is so horrid to go through, & yes it is supposed to be that the children bury their parents, but we as the children would rather have to do this when WE are 90 or so.
Since you are having a real tough time, I agree with the mental health counceling & may I suggest that you don't sign ANY legal documents without a good friends' or a notary you trust, to look at it first to keep you safe from harm. M
Hi Jackie, I lost my mom when I was 18 and I can tell you the grief still comes and goes at times. I will always cherish the memories of her. As several others mentioned, talking with a grief counselor or someone familiar / skilled in the grief process might be something for you to consider - I did that and it did help quite a bit. I just wish I had done it sooner instead of kind of just existing for a few years first, instead of living. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. Hugs, Michelle
My mom passed away 5 years ago. It gets easier, the feeling loss never goes away but it does get easier.
Dear Jackie . within 3 years we lost my mom, 2 aunts, my dad and my brother. The feeling of loss lessens but never truly leaves me.There are many times now that the tears change into laughter as we remember all the good times we had with them and find ourselves sharing laughter . I actually look at their pics daily where i have them in a place i can always see them and i talk to them daily too. I understand your feeling of having never felt such loss. I was very close with my mom especially as well as was my daughter who had a very special bond with her grandmother. Some people choose not to talk about their loved ones and i think whatever works is personal . every one grieves in their own way and in their own time and has that very right to do so. For now, the present , second by second, minute by minute let your feelings guide you in what ever way they will. there is no right or wrong....HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGS
Suzie
Hi Jackie,
I lost my youngest sister who was also my best friend in 2005 from lung cancer. I was with her till she died and it was the most difficult day of my life. It will be 10 years in May and I still cry just talking about it. We can cry together. Crying and greiving is not bad.
QW
I lost my mom on July 14, 2007. She was my best friend and my world. I had to be the "strong" one...all 4 of my brothers were looking at me to be the strong one and make all the decisions as was my step dad and my adopted little sister, who was only 11 (all my brothers were grown). I was holding my mom's hand for the last hour of her life and when she threw a clot and passed from this life as we know it...
There will always be an emptiness, a void, but the pain does lessen. I knew my mom was so much better off and no longer in pain or suffering, I know I will see her again one day. I never cried, I did celebrate her life and her accomplishments.
We all process grief in our own way. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you all for the support! I’m doing better today, I do my best to stay busy so that I don’t dwell on the loss. I feel for anyone who has lost a family member., it truly is rough. I think because mom and I were so close that it really does help in a lot of ways,my husband tells me all the time that she is always at my side. I’ve decided that I’m going to do my best to keep his statement in force and see if that helps! Can’t hurt to try, thanks again for all of the help. Hugs to all