Maybe that’s easier for you now? Hope so.
I wrote a bit about us having to learn to “take” more, and how, the other day, that came to my mind, not sure how that fits, but I’ll post it anyway, here. (I’m sure you’re taking and also giving all you can from/to Max, and have been giving more than you can to your mom; not sure what “taking” from us here might mean, but easiest would mean you always have an open invitation to vent here, like @rosebud74 says).
Let’s hope and pray 
that Max has only swollen lymph nodes… and isn’t suffering too much.
