Today I’am having a really bad day with pain an fatigue an I feel so bad.i can’t get off the couch much an it’s our grandson’s Birthday.he said it is a nice Birthday but no one came to see him he only got one gift from us really has no friends he is special needs an it just breaks my heart an the guilt I have not being able to do what I use to do is killing me inside.Thank God I have a son who is an angel an is home from college because he did spend the day with him,but I can’t even cook his Birthday dinner he asked for.Thanks for letting me get this off my chest an HAPPY EASTER TO ALL OFYOU sending you all BIG SOFT HUGS Melissa
How old is your grandson? Is there something inexpensive that he might like like a nice book or CD? I could probably send him a little something. Everyone deserves to have a little something on their birthday and it's beyond you to be able to do these things, and believe me, I totally understand your situation. But maybe a friend (me) could help out a little bit.
I hope you're felling somewhat better tomorrow. And don't forget that your love is the greatest gift you can give because without it children are completely alone and lost.
Hugs,
Petunia
Hi Mel, think about the other days you’re feeling better and what you do for him. You can always surprise him with a belated birthday dinner when you’re feeling better, and make it special for him. Your son spending time with him will give him good memories; experiences last a lot longer than gifts.
I’m sorry you’re having a bad day today, and hope you are feeling better tomorrow, and have a Happy Easter. Gentle Hugs
Melissa, you can do this for him another time! Kids understand more than you know. They will always give you the chance to make it up to them!
I have always had huge dinners, presents, baskets, egg hunts, and this year I fell short. The upstairs is still not finished, the attic is crammed with furniture, I cannot get to the eggs, I had the baby for several days and nights before going to the Rheum, and the older grandson is to be here all this coming week, now they are in need of help with the baby besides. And I just do not feel up to any of it! But they need to be cared for and loved, so somehow we'll do it!
There is only so much we can do for so long. You have to forgive yourself. It can happen on a better day, the girls agree! I'm gonna give the kids some money, I'll print off something and put it in a pretty envelope, let them get something they want, they like. Wish I could print the money too! ha!
Sending you a hug of understanding and friendship!
SK
first HAPPYEASTERr to such a sweet friend of mine you thinking of my grandson means more to me then anything an what u are going through I would never put you out like that but you to care about him with out even knowing him means the world to me an thank YOU SOOOOO MUCH it is a shame when he has people who could of came or mailed a card but didn"t but your right our love and time is priceless an thank you for that hope your having a good day today is day two on couch no sleep in pain real bad with migraine an bad fatigue well I will end for now sending big soft hugs to you xoxoxo melissa
Thank you so much for your kind words an encourgament means alot an your right I try to make up for what my stepdaughter did to him an his father but I know he has a great life an I need to keep reminding myself of that HAPPY EASTER TO YOU TO sending big soft hugs to you melissa
HAPPY EASTER I hope your holding up today will pray for you to have the strenght with your grandbabys has much joy they are they are alot of work you know I have mine 24/7 lol thank you for your support an love will end for now very tired sending you lots of big soft hugs for you an your grandbabys xoxoxomelissa
Wow… I can totally relate… Guilt GOES with this ‘condition’. We have the BEST of intentions, and ‘used to be able’ to do it ALL… RIGHT? well, the hardest part for me IS the GUILT! I also think it has a lot to do with the REASON we HAVE Fibro. Being a ‘Type-A’ personality… Putting TOO MUCH pressure on ourselves, etc.
I know you feel guilty, but you DO love your Grandson, and I’m sure he knows that. Whenever you feel better he will still be happy to get that home-made ‘favorite’ meal!
Accepting ourselves is THE hardest challenge! 
Hang in there!!
Thinking of you, Mel, hope you are rested and feeling better!
Thanks, Melissa. I really appreciate those nice hugs. And I'm serious, I'd like to send him a little something if I can. Poor guy deserves a nice birthday. Especially given that he's special needs. That just breaks my heart, Melissa. You can send me a message through this board if you'd like, about something small that he might like. If we're not friended yet, just click on my icon and ask to be my friend and I'll respond.
Hugs to you too, and I'm sorry you're in such pain. Seems like everyone is getting the same thing at once with tons of pain and inability to sleep. I think it's due to the change of seasons and possibly the increased sunlight.
Petunia
This is a nice idea, B2ching! I'll bet he'd enjoy it a lot, especially if he's getting it when Melissa feels better and can focus on him. And she's doing a great job by loving him. As you say, good memories - and love - are THE most important things to kids.