ok, so I just found this site this morning... love it, by the way... but here's my problem I haven't seen any recent past posts on (yet, that is.)
My sister-in-law has never "said" she doesn't believe in Fibro, but a few weeks ago, she called to let me know they were talking about it on Dr. Oz. Then she added, "I never really believed in it, to be honest...but it seems like a real thing."
Ok. that totally bugged. But I figured well maybe now that Dr. Oz says it's real, now she believes. (since all the science, doctors, and sufferers -- including me crying in front of her didn't register true with her)
I just found out she told one of our family friends that she thinks I'm "always using pain as an excuse to not do anything and I'm just being lazy." This friend made me swear not to tell my sister in law she told me what she said. She just wanted me to know what was said. But now, I'm angry. I'm having a lot of trouble letting this one go.
First -- I've never "cancelled" or "flaked" ... I've declined to make plans right at the start if I'm not having a good day. So there's never been any obligation on my end.
Second, how can it be an excuse if I'm having trouble walking? or my hands can't grip the steering wheel to drive anywhere?
(mind you, I also work 3 part time jobs, have 2 teens in sports & school, 3 cats, a dog, a house and a husband to take care of each day.... so "lazy" isn't something I'd consider myself to be.)
So my questions are:
How can I educate my sister-in-law, how can I get her to believe, or do I just not say anything at all??
Should I just let it go??
(I'm just afraid one day I'll nut-up on her & just let her have it... which wouldn't be good for anyone, including my pain levels.)
any help will truly be appreciated!