Please help me with ways to cope. I don't have time to lose it

I don’t usually complain much, but I hope you don’t mind if I just lay some of this out so you understand. Not looking for sympathy, just ideas on how to get through it all. I feel like I might explode. We are losing our business of 20 years and barely bringing home enough for groceries for 7 people, job hunting is a nightmare in this enconomy, we are now losing our home and I am not sure how to pay rent on a new one, we are almost done with adopting our baby son and hope they don’t find out about our financial woes. My 73 yr old mom broke her nect in a car accident. Its bad. She is the gardian to two older kids who I am now responsible for until she gets well. And my sweet 17 yr old girl got a job she liked and I had to make her quit, it was paying illegally.

Please don’t missunderstand, I am greatful for my family. I am so scared I won’t be able to keep up together. The stress is making me sick. Just getting into the car to see Mom hurts so much. I have 6 kids now to feed, entertain, nurture, drive everywhere. I am always holding back tears and keeping a smile on my face. I wish I could run away…if only for an hour…laundry to do, mouths to feed, house to clean, games to play.

Any ideas are welcome.

Awww I'm so sorry to hear of your worries.

I live in england so I don't know a great deal about how things work over there. Do you / can you make a claim for disability welfare benefits etc? I found I was better off here claiming benefits than killing myself at work (that I had so much time off from). It was so stressful and depressing losing my jobs, but it actually turned out to be a blessing indisguise. The benefit system here helps with mortgage payments or rent and we would get extra for the children too.

You should really look into what welfare benefits you are entitled to because I think it could work out better for you. You also need help to look after the children too, so check out that aswell.

I'm sorry I can't be more helpful, but I know there's a lot of people on this site who will have some brilliant ideas for you.

Best wishes and I hope you will find some peace soon x

Check through the above website. You may be eligible for assistance, especially since you have children. Local food banks will give you food for free.

The food banks can be very helpful too, usually someone there that can direct you to even more assistance programs. I was in a bad way at one point and found help. It's out there.

I don't know which county you're in so couldn't look up the specifics for you.

Hang in there. You can get through this. So many are going through this. First gotta be sure kids get fed and cared for.

You will get support and more ideas here from others.


Aren't you eligible for food stamps? With that many members of the family, I would think you would be. If not, couldn't you put your remaining assets into a trust and then apply?

Housing isn't an issue I'm familiar with. I don't know if section 8 is available. What about the foreclosure help? Isn't there some avail. thru banks?

Like Jo says, aren't you eligible for disability? It's not a lot of money but it would help.

Ty all for the kind words and ideas. I will look into them on Monay.

Dear Kimberly,

At the top left corner above if you click on discussions, type in 'financial assistance programs', you will find a list composed by our friend Sheila Wall with a huge range of possibilities for you and your family.

There are other programs such as 'needy' if you google that surely it will come up. Any other programs that members are aware of would be greatly appreciated.

Finding a dedicated social worker in your area may also be a great resource to you. There is always a way, just please do not loose the will!

We are always here to support you in any way we can. Stay strong!

Love and hugs to you and yours,


You can't be employed and apply for disability, well not ssdi anyway. Catch 22 again.

What if you're only working part time? Otherwise, that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard of! How are you supposed to pay your bills???

Our best to you, Sheila! What an unfortunate and unpleasant situation to be in! I hope some of these resources help you. I wish I could think of more but I'm in a lot of pain today and the brain isn't working too well. Sorry if my earlier post wasn't worded too's the stupid pain.

Those are the rules. I was lucky and got approved in six months. Meantime, I sold just about everything i owned just to keep my mortgage paid and food on the table. Talk about stress...ugh.

Oh Avenk! I had no idea that you had so, so much on your plate! Do you mean to say that you're taking care of all of the kids, plus their parents plus your parents??? OMG. I think that any normal, sane person would crash from that, let alone someone with fibro.

I'm sorry about your dad. That totally stinks. But thank God for your mom being there to help you out. She sounds like a real sweetie.

i don't know how you do it but bless you for keeping your head about you. And your doc is so right - you need time for yourself. This illness is a real toughie - can't imagine having all of the responsibility that you do with this illness.

Here is something else you may want to check out, Volunteers in Medicine, Annie mentioned it.

Hope it is something that can help you! Stay strong, we are with you!