Hey everyone! So this kind of goes with my discussion about your love life and dealing with fibro but I decided to make a separate discussion on it because I don't really need help in this category. Instead I have some good tips for everyone that might help, they help me so hopefully I can share some knowledge. I'm going to be blunt, so if this makes you uncomfortable you should click away from this one >.<
Okay so first of all, this is only really directed at women because I have no idea how men cope with this. But anyways, generally the biggest issue for people with fibro who want to have sex is the pain obviously, but not just the pain of the actual sex, pain in our legs, our necks, and our backs. So the first thing you should do is make sure you find a comfortable enough position, if you find your legs hurt a lot during sex there are other positions you can do that won't hurt them as much, generally when the guy is on his side and you on your back with your legs over him, this gives you freedom to keep your legs together or apart if they hurt too much and its quite intimate as well. The freedom of this position is probably the best one, you can shift to make yourself comfortable no matter what without interrupting the experience. Being on top for women with fibromyalgia can be excruciating, but if you take the time to make yourself comfortable it can be wonderful as well because you still have that freedom to move into a more comfortable position. Anyways I won't give them all away because you need to try different things yourselves and find out what's best for YOU. Okay so another issue I find is that once the pain does hit me I'm no longer in the mood, when that happens don't worry, just either shift into a more comfortable position or stop for a while and do foreplay and then try again. Sooner or later you will find the perfect positions and techniques to help you and your partner be more intimate. Music helps block out the thought of pain, because lets all be honest, the more we think about it the more we hurt. Light some scented candles, tell your partner exactly what you want, communication is key. I know these all sound like obvious everyday solutions but they really help, if the actually penetration hurts then buy lube, there is absolutely NO shame in buying it. And remember theres no need to rush, if you take your time things will turn out better for both of you in the end :)