I wish my husband would understand that if I am asleep, under NO circumstances is it ok to wake me.
If I took your pillow, find another one.
If the blanket is crooked, live with it
If the TV is on and I am asleep, never turn it to Sports. It will always wake me up.
if you are hot, go to another room and turn on the fan. Do not turn it on in our bedroom. It make me miserable.
90% of the time he will fall asleep within seconds and I am left awake for hours. Sorry just venting. Hope all of you are asleep.
Signed Grumpy Scarlett
Oh Scarlett,
I had to chuckle as I would write nearly the same thing, but instead of sports, it's the military channel!
I decided on seperate top sheets/blankets early in the marriage, we get along much better! I don't even bother with bedspreads or comforters anymore!
If I could only get him to another room, as he is always hot, I am always freezing!
I really do relate to ALL of this, good luck, girlfriend!
Wishing you well,
SK
I completely understand Grumpy Scarlett. My husband is the kind of guy who falls asleep the second he lays down. And don’t even get me started on the SNORing. I want to gently smother him with a pillow some nights!!! He’s the only man I’ve ever met who snores while he’s still awake! If I’m lucky enough to get him to roll the other direction, long enough for me to fall asleep, please god don’t anyone touch me because it took me ForEver to get there!!!
A few years ago I’d been surviving on about six hours of sleep over three days. I finally fell blissfully asleep and an hour later my husband woke me up and asked me if I wanted to eat dinner. Angry doesn’t begin to describe it and I went another 2 days with no sleep - pondering serious bodily harm to him while he snored beside me.
I do hope you’re telling him directly what you need from him. Always happy to have you vent but these are things that need to be addressed so you can get the rest you need.
Lol im there with you , my husband to falls asleep straight away then the snoreing comes , I tried last night to push him back onto his side ! I just didnt have the energy behind me I even tried digging my elbow into him but it was to sore , so I reached over and held his nose to stir him , it worked he grunted and went on his side , my eldest son was away last night so I nearly got in his bed ! The thing is we dont sleep well and once disturbed were wide awake ! I will just keep pinching his nose !! Hugs angi x
I feel they same way. Sleep is such a rare thing for me that when I do get you better no disturb me. My husband an kids get a chuckle because I have to have the sheets tight and smooth. NO WRINKLES, wrinkles hurt,
My husband has sleep apnea and is one heck if a snorer. He got a machine in 2006 but tossed and turned so much I would hear the shushing noise when the nose piece came off, waking me up and waking him up to tell him to fix it! He then got a mouth guard that soldiers use in combat but it hurt his teeth. Whine, whine, whine! Didn’t even give it a chance so I said I can’t get any sleep with him snoring and if he wasn’t going to use the expensive equipment he was going to have to sleep in my sons old room. So I now have a huge California king to myself and he sleeps on a queen size. It works. Especially after my neck surgery in 2007, where getting comfortable was a job in itself. A shoulder surgery in 2011, another in 2012 and another one the end of October.
I totally agree with you about rules to not wake me up when I’m asleep! We get so little good sleep that any time we can is precious. We both agree that this works best and we are do much happier having our own bed! I highly recommend it. And during those special times we feel like we’re still dating after 32 years, because we can choose who’s room we’re in!
I no it is hard for us to really get good sleep but I would trade the whinning fighting over the covers and fan and whether the room is to cold or hot just to have my Robert back. I hate sleeping alone I hate not having someone here just to sit with I hate doing all this alone. My feeling down moment. You would think after 3 years it wouldn’t hit me all of a sudden.
love it i had my own room when i had a bigger house everyone was happy
HI
You are not alone. My hubby is the same way. SEEMS like if he is awake I have to be awake to. One day I was so fed up I asked him what was wrong with him. And said he needed reality check. The past two weeks have been good. I read men don't think like women do. I can totally agree with that. But they never think past their nose I always say. Those little stupid think they seem to not care about are madding at times.
Hugs
Shirley
I dont think your husband understands your illness. Find really good information and ask drs for a dvd about it. Read figuring out fibromyalgia. It’s incredibe and makes sense of fibromyalgia so u can explain it better im so sorry for what your enduring.
I am so sorry to be complaining when my husband is here. My heart goes out to you. Gentle hugs.
Scarlett
Scarlett,
I feel like I have been screaming this for the last 5 days. The lack of sleep is insane. I never realized just how much my meds would mess with another med or something that was working causing something all together not to work. It is nuts. I am praying you find the sleep you need. Meanwhile I am laying in bed next to my husband wanting to do nothing but pick up the pillow at the foot of the bed and beat him senseless with it. Surely it won't hurt him just wake him as he does me even if it is unwittingly. My husband works a crazy schedule. So at basically 5 every morning a alarm goes off... followed by 3 snoozes, a 30 min shower, sitting on the bed shifting while he ties shoes, and then finally a hour later he is leaving the room so of course he has to say good bye. Meanwhile I probably if I am even semi lucky just fell asleep 3 hours ago. Then at 7 it is a teen headed to school, 9 another teen whom home schools waking me to work. Yeah no sleep.
Hoping it gets better for you
Jo
If my husband knew the violent th thoughts that race around my mind . I'm usually very passive but snoring is like torture. We sleep with different blankets , we sleep my head at his feet so its not straight I n my ear, he has a snoring mouth piece that helps, but some nights..........
Absolute torture for me and hazardous for him
My David ,I lost in 2005,and fortunate to have found Carlos but lost him after 3months ,I hate this ,I get it .I just don't know if I could survive losing someone else .Sometimes I wish but don't have enough energy anymore.So I get it. But it doesn't help ,crying does sometimes,but time never seems to do what they say .
My Rheum has been working with me to help me with sleep for over a year, finally prescribing me Sonata, and it has helped!
My husband doesn't snore, but I wake at 3:00 so often that if I sleep through this bewitching hour... my dogs wake me up because they are in a habit of coming in here and reading everyone's posts...
(yes, they are very good readers... :) )
I know they say stay away from electronic devices when you are trying to sleep, but I figure since I don't sleep anyway...
I am on Trazadone, however you spell that, a very low dose. It knocks me out and I sleep soundly now for about four hours a night, then i'm up at 3 ish, and fall back to sleep about the time i have to muddle through my morning and get my butt to work.
I wish you all sweet dreams..
:)
I think it might be time to sleep in different rooms. That way he can do what he wants and same is true for you as well.
When i got sick, i tried staying in same bed but nights when i was sick...i just made it miserable for both of us by noise or being so sick i kept my husband awake most of the night.
I had surgery where i had to sleep alone...it was so much nicer! We still cuddle and often he will fall asleep with me than go to his own room since he is night owl and i am not.
I was ashamed to admit us not sleeping in same bed but since seen stats and many married couples do not share same bed especially if one snores or has health issues...so not so unusual any more..you might just consider it.
I don’t think it ever goes away, you just have to learn to deal with it in your own way, no matter how long it takes, & don’t be taking any notice of people who say you should " get over it, & about time you should start living your life again" they’re not true friends, true friends will let you come back in your own time. “It” will hit you sometimes at the oddest moments, be at his 3 yrs or 16 yrs when my own very dear sister in law … My husband’s sister, a very dear friend passed away. It’s still very raw, especially since she was only 34,sorry if anything I’ve said has offended you, if it hasn’t I hope it has helped you to understand your grief as it is completely normal to feel how you do ,even after 3 years, take good care & don’t be too hard on yourself. . Xxxxxxx
My meds make me sleepy but I feel I wake up a lot. Then in morning i don’t want to get up just want to keep sleeping!!! I’ve been in bed 12 hours and still tired!!! What the heck!!! Want to go to church but no energy!!!