Turning things around :)

Good morning, all. I'm new to this site, but not new to fibromyalgia. I was diagnosed when I was 21, I'm now 25. Both my parents were diagnosed with it when I was in my teens, as well.

I had been keeping okay up until a few weeks ago when I started getting very, very lackadaisical about my self-care. Kind of reached a point where I was thinking, "It still hurts no matter what I do, so why bother?"

Well, this week, that "why" has hit me with the worst flare I've had in ages. Being now stuck in my house until I get some energy back, I've had plenty of time to think about which of my triggers I've been engaging with, and well:

sugar? check. excessive caffeine? check. total lack of physical activity? check. followed by excessive activity? check. junk food binges? check. alcohol? check.

It's weird, it's as if I've suddenly gone into denial about having fibro at all over the last few weeks and been living as if I can do whatever I want and get off scot-free. Well, I can't, and I haven't, and now I've got a lot of bad habits to break (again) to get back on top of things.

I'm frustrated as always that I can't just live my life however I want, and that I constantly have to make allowances for the fibro. But this has made me determined to get back on top of things again and live the best life I possibly can, despite the fibro. I know that if I consistently avoid all of my triggers I can feel so much better than I do now. Nothing will make it go away completely, but if I exercise proper self-care, at least I can make it tolerable.

I've never been part of a support group before, so this is new territory for me, but I think it's important for me now that I do connect with other people with this condition. I think I started pushing it out of my mind in the first place because I was fed up of reminding people I have it! As unpleasant as it is, this has taught me that I can't afford not to put my self-care first.

So! How are you today? What has been working for you lately? :)

Hello there, idbuypens!

My name is Seenie and I help out with the larger Ben's Friends community, as well as being a moderator on the BF Psoriatic Arthritis site. This morning, I just happened to notice your lovely, chatty post and I wanted to welcome you here. You've found yourself a very warm and busy community, and I hope that you will find the support and information that you are looking for here. I have a feeling you will!

Psoriatic Arthritis is a condition that has several things in common with FM -- our friends pain and fatigue and .... oh, never mind! I don't need to tell you. What works for me is helping other people. I get on the support site, and I see the friendly words and kindness of others, and yes, their suffering as well, I add a few words of my own, and it really does help me feel better. So keep contributing here: it's much better than having to keep reminding people of your FM, and explaining what it is. The people here get it!

Again, welcome to Ben's Friends.

Hi idbuypens!

What’s been working for me lately:

Finally a medication is helping, I think it’s the Flexaril or the Savella.
(Or both) I’m waking up with more energy and much less pain! Wow!!

Sleeping better, 5 to 6 hrs with more restful sleep. Using sleep monitor

Connecting here with people!

Starr

Welcome, welcome! So glad you’re part of our community.
Hugs,
Laurie