I hate being sick! I've worked so hard to have a job that will afford me nice things and I've had to cut down to 16 hours a week because of the fibro and copd. We struggling financially and I've been trying to sell jewelry but it isn't selling because of the economy. My husband won't help unless he's asked and it takes him days to do something because of his bi-polar stuff; he gets easily side-tracked. He has back pain and he sits when he's tired, then he gets caught up in a television show and "forgets". With all my pain issues (I also have kyphosis) I can still finish the dishes in a hour (including wiping down the stove/counters). He does not work at all...he sits on the computer all day/night, except when he's watching tv. I work, cook (sometimes not every day), grocery shop, pay bills, ect. Depression is often called anger turned inward, so I started smoking at him again. He doesn't know yet, I had quit December 23rd. I only have 2-3 cigarettes a day. Some of the issues I can resolve when I get my disability; I'm getting someone to help me clean up and organize. My house is dusty, I wonder how I am able to breathe in it at all! Other issues aren't as easily resolvable. I just think I'm married to the lazy man alive...he always has a excuse. I didn't mind doing stuff when I was healthy and he worked, but it ticks me off when I'm out there doing stuff and he's just sitting. He does two things regularly, takes trash out on Thursday and brings in groceries when I get them. I hope ya all don't mind me venting...I just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening...Lil Al
Hi Lil Al, I'm sorry things are going so poorly, but please don't start smoking. You might be doing it to spite him but it'll hurt you. Can you talk to your husband or maybe have a 3rd person mediate? I'm just fishing, I don't know what to tell you All this "crap" is stressful and that will make your fibro worse. Can you get out, away from the house for a day? You need some kind of outlet, coming here is good you can vent when you need to, it helps. Good luck, I'm glad you're going to get some help at least, good luck Charlie :)