Alone :(

I haven't been here all week because I've been busy sleeping, Too bad it doesn't make me feel better. I'm writing now because I'm so lonely and I don't live alone! My husband's been so quiet lately. He was diagnosed with fibro a few years before me, but he didn't believe it. He told me, "that's the diagnoses the doctors give you when they don't know what's wrong with you". Well it took him awhile but he finally read enough about it to believe. For quite a while now he's been withdrawn, and I can't seem to get him out of it. When we have company he acts normal, talking, joking, etc. but, when we're alone he clams up. Speaks if spoken to, bites my head off alot, in general I think he's being an ass! Quite awhile ago I heard Dr. Phil say, "ask yourself, how much fun am I to live with?" And I thought about that and realized I was no fun period. So I changed myself, planted a smile on my face, tried to make conversation. Started watching the news so we'd have something to talk about. Also didn't talk about my pain, unless it was so bad I couldn't move. In general I tried to be more pleasant to be around. I told him what Dr. Phil said to try and get him to come around but it had no affect. I know he's in pain too, but you can't just quit life. You can't let it take over your life. We only go out together to my doctor appt's. The rest of the time we just exist in the same house. I don't know how to get through to him, but we're 53 yrs. old and I don't want to spend the rest of our lives together like this. Dammit, it makes me mad!

Ok, I'm done, needed to get that off my chest. Hope you all have had a good day, :) Charlie.

According to my Chiropractor, who prefers the diagnosis of myofascial pain syndrome, they are very, very close, so perhaps he would feel better with that term.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myofascial_pain_syndrome

I'm so sorry to know that you both suffer from such a debilitation condition. Hopefully you can find a good Dr who can make the quality of your life better. I know I really have to push to do more than the Dr, grocery store, and Pharmacy!

Hi charlie - oh my gosh, you have a double whammy to deal with. This is the first time I have heard of both spouses having Fibro. Have you thought of couple's therapy? It sounds like your husband is confused about how to deal with his illness. Maybe it is overwhelming for him now that he has been diagnosed as well? I can see you are making an effort to support him in his illness - but you are getting very little in return. Charlie - everyone has their own way of dealing with the Fibro. The WAY they deal with it is what causes problems. Please think about talking with someone that might be able to help you both in giving each other support. Love, Laurie

No offense to our male members here, but I feel that some men are not very anxious to admit they have fibro, as it is primarily a woman's condition. You may want to mention to him that we have a group for men only, where the guys can talk this over privately!

You know that we are always here for you, and very glad to hear from you, Charlie!