Hi Teresa. Welcome to the fibro group.
I'm sorry that you're experiencing fibro. It's everything that you've described. And the tough part is that family members are sometimes the least understanding people when it comes to fibro. I think it's that they don't understand it at all and think that you were fine before so why aren't you the same as before? But you're not. I have no idea what puts people over the edge and into fibro but it seems that some sort of stress, physical or mental, seems to be a common factor. Like you, it oftentimes seems to creep up on us at first in little ways, like hip or joint pain that won't resolve, and then, suddenly, it's just terrible all over.
One thing that might prove helpful is getting your vitamin D level checked by your doctor. Many of us are very low on it and we need to take a few mega doses in order to get back to the normal range, and then take regular doses. You'd want to discuss any possibility with your doctor.
I can't really say what's best to do with informing others. I would think that you tell people whom you're comfortable with. But be prepared for people to expect you to be the same as you were before the fibro. My sister and mother keep demanding that I get more medical help so I can "get better and get back to work and living." This, after 3 years of being diagnosed with fibro. It can really hurt when the people you love continue to believe that fibro is some slight illness that you just traipse through and then keep going as normal. I've tried to explain to my mother and sis that it's as life-changing as Multiple Schlerosis. I don't know how to make it any clearer to them. So please get your emotional armour ready in case you get similiar comments.
I find Lyrica to be helpful and I hope it helps you too. You may need to increase your dose as time goes by, as your doctor suggests.
It's fantastic that your husband is so understanding. That is a wonderful plus to have in your favor. As for your kids, I would suggest trying to find some on-line reading for them to look through, so they get a better idea of what fibro is like. You could even show them some of the discussions on here, so they'd understand that it's not only you who is suffering from fibro.
What do I do to ease the pain? Take a combination of Lyrica, Effexor and Nortriptyline for pain, mood and relaxation. All kind of work together to help make things less painful. I also get plenty of rest because when I'm tired, I get to feeling worse and am mentally not checked in at all. I also put SalonPas patches on the sore areas (found in any drug store near the Ben Gay.) I also take Ibuprofin occasionally. Ice is a big helper for the hip pain. Oh, and i just had a procedure called radio ablation, which is a procedure that burns a nerve in the back that causes a lot of my hip pain. For whatever reason, it's arthritis that radiates down to the hip and hurts like heck there.
I'm sure you will get a lot of useful answers, Teresa. Please feel free to come back and learn more about fibro. it really does help.
Hugs
Petunia