GRRRRRRRRRR On the 5 my daugther went for acheck up at the hospital -time for her baby-her brother was with her and he had her phone well anyway she texted her sister and tolded her want was going on they keep her for a while she was at 2 cem,I called her phone but my son did not answer,he could have he called his wife at work, my other daugther was at work too they keep calling and texting her she in turn would call me, i left a voice mail for the daugther that was in the hospital after some time they let her go home still know call e mail nonthing on facebook,i am so upset right now i do not think i will go to the hospital when the babby is born looks like i got a stay out of our lifes wake up heck the motherinlaw knew more they me I just do not need this bull in my life Should I JUST STAY AWAY or am I just crazy Hugs to all
Dearest Bet,
They always think Mom will understand, you know! Forgive them, and go hold that beautiful new grandbaby! This is the best part of our life! Nothing would keep me away! Get your coat on, girlfriend!
Love and hugs,
SK
hey, ah it sounds like you were proper stressed and for good reason...ALTHOUGH, you need to remember that when a babies on way its all exciting and hurried, scary and time comsuming. perhaps they thought they would get hold of you once there was some news, something worth calling for? perhaps they didnt want you unduly worried? they are the only reasons i can think of which would account for everyone else in the know except you. try to calm down a little before you make any rash decisions, its an emotional time for you all. either sit tight and be ready for your call or give it to tomorrow and try contacting her again.
its not much but i hope it helps
sarah x
Bet
BeiNG upset dose not imply you are crazy. Your just upset, i would be to.take a deep breath , relax and wait a while. If there is no reply call the ward and talk to the nurse.Might be she is in pain or they are busy with her.Might not be allowed to use the phone there.
Hugs
S L M
Hi Bet, I can really understand why you are upset, if I was you I would keep calling your daughters cell phone… Until someone ans… Ask her if you can please be called when she is in labor… Let her know you want to be there… I’m with SK… Get your coat on … In this one situation … Make excuses for why they didn’t call ya… And get your coat on … You don’t want to miss being there when the baby is born… Your being there will speak volumes to your daughter!
CONGRATS !!!
Hugs
I think this is very easy answer....is it worth missing seeing newborn grandchild? Something you will never get back?
If you stay angry, try to calm yourself down if not for anyone but yourself since it can just make you sick. Once calm, than speak to both your daughter and son and possibly the husband. Try to use the 'I' rule where you only use sentences that start with I.
I myself have assumed things why other acted to be completely wrong. Now, I try to calming ask and more often than not what i assumed if it was negative feelings was completely wrong. I know this has happen other way with others assuming things about me and I wish they just ask me rather than assume or believe what someone else told them.
Plus, it is teaching your children how important positive communication is in relationships.
Or you might choose not to say anything except to ask to be called once she goes in labor...so you can see your new grandchild. Often as our children age it becomes important to them that we ask permission instead of expecting things. It makes them feel respected and that us parents finally see them as adults with their own right to make choices.
It is important to pick and choose our battles especially when one has chronic illness...so journal or try to think calmly and honestly about if this is worth getting sick over, I am sorry it upset you so much and hope you do not get sick. But on happy note, Congratulations on soon new grandchild will be in your life! Such happy news!
I can imagine how you must have felt. I had a similar experience. When my daughter married, all i heard was her mother-in-law this and that. Or her m-i-l does things this way & that, like I never taught her how to do anything … or whatever. It hurt me, yes, but I now look beyond that & have learnt to focus on myself and my health. There are so many outside influences which affects our health and stress levels. It’s up to us … whether we are gonna allow this to penetrate ourselves and be more harmful to our health, or whether we gonna put it aside and focus on ourselves. Good luck and enjoy that little bundle, don’t worry about what’s happening around you…
Not worth getting angry over. In the end, you will have a grandchild. My mother was done the same way. She was hurt at first, but she got over it as soon as she held my nephew. Everything will be fine Bet.
Oh Bet,
It's such a huge occasion! Please don't stay away. If there are problems, please try and work them out after. But right now it's time for you to meet your little grandbaby. You won't get this particular chance again.
Warmly,
Petunia