Scribelle, I love the idea of using a daily sheet for your goals and checking them off to feel a sense of accomplishment. I think you are so right that the lack of deadlines plus isolation are the two hardest things to deal with. And yes, setting aside some time to heal and rest after all of the pounding that our bodies have taken, is first on the list of things to do once we leave a job.
Warmly,
Petunia
I agree with Petunia, that sounds like sage advice to me, dee! That sounds like a FMS motto to me!
Hi Sandi. I'm so happy for you. Finally! There is a book that's called "What to do When You're Not Working". I haven't read it, but a friend has. Maybe there is something in there for you.
It's amazing how getting away takes the pain away. I have found that when I have a break from home I am able to leave all of the stress behind and become excited about the trip and suddenly there's no fibro pain. What is up with that anyway? Even it's a weekend, 100 miles away. Yeah, plan a trip! You can get back to real life soon enough.
I can't think of a more deserving person, Sandi. Good for you.
Love and Hugs,
LKitty
Sandi, the day that you told me that you were ready to 'EXPLODE' from the work load and stress at work that it was time for you to go. Like I told you, it was better to go out on medical leave, than to be fired for inappropriate behavior, which is so against your high personal and professional standards. Hopefully that helped you to decide.
You know when we had/have to drag ourselves to work when we are injured or ill there are always so many things we would rather be doing. Well even if you're not hurt or sick there is always a list of things you would much rather be doing. Perhaps you will still be able to do some of those things.
I know it will be good for you to spend more time with that gorgeous little granddaughter of yours, good for both of you! That alone should have you excited!
Hopefully we will have you here more too! Yes, that is being selfish, but we have loved you from the first day you joined!
Too bad we are all so far apart, imagine the lunches we could all have together! HA! Wouldn't that just be wonderful!
Love and hugs to you,
SK
I actually say take community college course in it or Learning Center .....it is great way to meet others plus you get out of the house to socialize. I have done knitting and crochet this way....it is not held at the community college but local craft/ fabric/yarn store. When the teacher finally felt she had enough, i really was sadden but i see her out walking her dogs...and often walk with her.
I agree that jobs can make illnesses worse but if they are decent like Sandi and mine was ..well then i say work as long as you can. My 1st Rheum who was in his 70's and taught at night...told me to keep working as long as possible that every person he saw who stopped working did become worse.
Even though I do get out daily to walk my dogs and try to take classes like knitting, i also have got worse since quitting my job....could just be since i am getting older too. But i do miss my job and the people very much, plus the self esteem it gave me.
I agree. When I was able, I went out to eat lunch once a week. Now I’m lucky just to make it to my drs appts. Take time for yourself now. I try to have one day every 2 weeks for my boyfriend and me to do everything. Then collapse! I wish you the best.
I ssooo agree with siskiya. I also have declined since leaving work. I loved my job. It was rewarding and I helped people every day. To be honest, the kudos pumped me up.
Next fall I have an art class I want to take. Somewhere I have to be, with a little stimulation and not a lot of noise. Not to mention creativity. I have done knitting classes too. We have to keep things scheduled. It kind of seems like the world sinks in around us if we don't. I contribute my decline this winter to being too cold and not getting out on a regular basis.
Thanks, Petunia Girl!
Even though I was not paid for homeschooling, I worked as if I were a paid teacher, complete with all the hours, reports, etc. B.C. (before children) I worked in positions where I determined what I would do that day. Then came the time when I expected to go back to work (need to work more time for Soc. Sec. benefits) Whoa! Medical issues surround & abound!
Sitting in a recliner all day was mandatory at one point when I was fighting for my life, but I never want to go back to that! Having a daily sheet of goals has not only saved my sanity, it also works when I have fibro fog!
L Kitty, I wonder if it's a similar process that Lamaze uses, only in a more general way. If we do things, we have distractions from the pain. Plus, we get a new memory of a great time!
Hi there Scriblelle! Yes, I'm sure it's similar. Because our (or at least my) pain worsens with stress and anxiety, going somewhere where you have NO responsibilities is a break in the cycle. I'm not talking about going to take care of the grand kids or a work trip, but truly a break for you. Ahhh...let's go.