My body is trying so hard to recover from being put through the ringer. All I wanted today was to wake up, have my coffee, feed my dogs and get mydelf ready to go to the store. My daughter is waiting for me to call do she can take me. Instead, my dogs won’t eat, one of them threw up bile. I started to treat the carpet and then my son came and he’s not doing well. I tried talking to him and then he sped off without saying goodbye . In the mean time I haven’t called my daughter and I’m not ready to go anywhere. This is how it ALWAYS GOES when I want to have a positive attitude and make the best of everything. I don’t understand. I can’t win. No pity party just exhausting and makes me want to give up. I can’t even do the simple things in life without there always being more to it. Lisa
:Lisa, it's because the simple things in life become soooo exhausting when you have fibro and even cleaning up the throw up seems like a monumental task. Sounds like a pretty bad start to a day to me. I hope the rest of the day wasn't as bad. But I know what you mean, as feeding my dogs feels the exact same way. Every step taken seems to take up soooo much energy and every BENDING motion seems to KILL. Then the dogs will make a mess before I've had a chance to take them out. Then the cleaning starts again. And pretty soon, I feel close to tears as my energy is GONE and there is still cleaning to be done.
Just keep plugging at it, Lisa and REST REST REST in between. That's how I find the energy to go on when a day is particularly bad. The rest may end up being a half hour but so what? If that's what it takes to recuperate, so be it.
Hugs to you and hope today is better.
Petunia
Hi Lisa, Iv had days that start like that, and all you want to do is go back to bed and cry… Or just lock your door and ignore everyone & everything !!
Hang in there, stress and chaos does make us feel 10x worse, I need complete quiet for a portion of my day, I call it me time. It used to only be an hr a day, but as pain & fatigue cause havoc in our life, my me time has expanded.
I hope you can de-stress and have a better tomm
Hugs & blessings
dee
Thank you Patunia,
I was able to go with my daughter and get my shopping done. Problem is that I recieved a text while I was in the store from my sons girlfriend who recently moved out and left him. She forwarded a text from him saying he was going to take a bunch of pills. I got home with groceries and husband came home the same time. I told my husband about the text .
My son works with my husband but hasnt in the last few days ( no work) and all my husband was concerned with was his business! and he started screaming about it all and threw in at the last minute " nobody can carry their own weight around here." he knows I can’t work and yet throws it in my face a lot here lately. I have done all I can and more. I don’t spend money and have always been very mindful of our cost. I make my appt w my doctor every 2 months and stretch my Medicine to every 2 months also. I called my son to make sure he was going to be okay. Now I’m on the couch starting with a flare. I still have some
office work to do and dinner… Uhhhh… I don’t know. I Just don’t .
Hi Dee , thank you for sharing . I replied to patunias message and it’s for you as well. Tomorrow has to be better. Has too. I look forward to night time when husband goes to bed and i can just rest and be done for the day. Hope your having a decent day. take care Lisa
See my message below.
Hmmmmm, is your husband maybe worried about the health of his business? Could that explain his reaction to your son's emergency and your own ill health?
Boy, whatever the reason, oh man, you must have had a WHALE of a headache by the time you got to sit on the couch. As a fellow mom, I know my blood pressure and fibro would be SKY HIGH if my son made such a threat. Instant gray hair maker. No wonder you were flaring! I sincerely hope your son is ok and will get help if he needs to, as break ups can be absolutely devastating, especially at that age. Poor guy.
You both take care. Please. What a sukky day you both had!
I'm so sorry you are having a bad day. Can you run some bath water, put in some epsom salts and a little baking soda. Get in there and get away from the world for just 30 minutes? Can you put off some of today until tomorrow so you can have a little control over the day? You need rest right now.
L-Kitty
Great suggestion, L-Kitty.
Hi petunia, yes I’m sure my husband was concerned with his business. I know he is under a lot of pressure but so am I. Nothing else even crosses my mind if I hear something like that about my son though. He just saw a pc doctor today for some direction BEFORE THIS HAPPENED. : ( I’m hoping that he gets proper care. I don’t want to loose him . I’m so happy and proud that he went this morning . Big step! Thank you for all your support. XXXOOO ! Lisa
I had a long answer written out to you but the machine froze and I lost it (!!!!!!!) Annoying as all get.
Lisa, I always tried to use my dumb mistakes as humble learning moments with my son. I made one very huge boneheaded mistake when my son was a teen that upset him a lot. A few years later, he threatened to repeat the dumb act, I guess because it was familiar to him. I looked at him square in the eye and begged him not to make the same dumb mistake as I had made. I think hearing me speak of it, plainly, helped him to understand that doing it himself wasn't going to make anything any better, so he didn't do the boneheaded act. I do think that acknowledging that adults make mistakes helps kids to feel more assured about dealing with their own mistakes.
I also always told him that every single human does dumb things sometimes but it seems to happen a lot more in our teens and 20's. I told him this, "if you ever do something stupid, don't make it worse by doing something stupider. Just come to me or another adult and we'll figure out how to handle it." I couldn't emphasize that one enough. Maybe this might be something to pass along to your son? I hate to see kids suffering over love; it hurts so much at that age.
I don't know if any of this is of any help but maybe so. At any rate, my heart goes out to you. I think it'd be a good idea to keep a close eye on him for awhile, since he's feeling so vulnerable. Boy, funny how quickly my own mom instincts get activated when I hear of someone else's kid getting into potential trouble!
Please let me know how things go on this end, and feel free to get in touch with me if you need to. We're already "Friended" so just click on my icon.
Peace,
Petunia Girl
I know it Lisa, and the more kids and dogs and cats and people and animals that depend on you, the more it seems to happen this way. All living things need so much, but they also give so much. I guess the easiest thing on us is to just expect it to happen all of the time, then maybe we wouldn't get so stressed about it. Surely does cut down on the sleep time, and uses up our limited energy though!
I really do know how you feel, it's just like sabotage after a while!
Hope things go better for you! I'm pulling for you, girl!