My mother told me that elders in her state are putting their assets into a trust and then applying for - and qualifying for - government services. Maybe you could look into this? You could google it first, "putting assets into trust and benfits of it." Then if it sounds beneficial, you could contact a lawyer, maybe even through legal aid.
So here is a gentle hug for you. I know you need it. Best to you and hope tomorrow is better and easier for you.
Hi Gemm, a cute pet story for you. My cat, Sassy, laid down on top of my purse today. As she was trying to get comfy, she laid on my cell phone and pushed some buttons. She figured out that she was making the beeping and started kneading my purse to make the beeping continued. Can’t wait to get my bill- she probably called China! My pets, a cat and a dog, are such a comfort to me. They keep me company and are an endless source of amusement. And so very protective. I had a bad episode a couple of days ago and I had to lay down on the floor because I was so dizzy and off balance. Tulip, my dog, stood over my body and watched over me until I was able to get up. She is so sweet. We got her when she was 18 months old- she was a rescue. Sassy was a rescue too. If I had a farm, I would have a million animals!
Is there any way to upload pictures so all could see? I have some real cute ones of my critters
Gentle hugs.
Ah, I am the wrong one to talk to about that, but let me see if I can get Mike! Mike is young and smart and can do just about anything!
Hi...It is really easy because I can do it and i am not computer savvy. Under your picture on your page there should be three boxes. The second box has the word PHOTO. Just click on that and you will come to a page that has an ADD bottom on the top right hand corner. Click that button and it gives you the option of uploading photos from a file or, if your computer has the technology, taking a picture from the computer and directly posting. Can't wait to see the dog and cat.
Good luck
Maria
Our animal shelter gives shots out really cheap. I bred chesapeake bay retrievers for 20 years. I all ways gave them the 7 way vac. You can pick it up at most pet store or farm supply stores. It will cost you about $8. Just clean the spot between the shoulder blades, grip up the fat and skin and slide the needle in at an angle going towards the dogs head. It real easy to do. Under stand about money, it took me 2 years to get on disability, I have fibro, a real bad back, and major depressive disorder. Before I got approved for ssdi i was getting real close to eating a bullet. Just tired of the pain, the collection calls, friends saying nothing is wrong and I am lazy, losing friends over it, beleive me I have been their. It does get better. Not saying you wont have bad days or spells, but remember there is some one who is worse off than you. A homeless family, a child that had her dad poor gas on her and set her on fire. This is true, my buddy was 1 of the cops who picked him up, lets just say he resisted arrest alot. Today has not been a good one for me, hurting bad today, if it could go wrong it did, got into a stupid fight with the wife. It's been the first day in a while that I have thought about checking out in a while. Sounds alot different when you type it out. Hang in there.
I hope your pain eases so that you can get some sleep, good sleep! Kiss your wife and hold her, my heart goes out to both of you!
Hopefully you can get the bad day behind you, sounds like you are due for a really good day, you surely deserve it!
Hugs to you and your wife,
SK
How do you stay so chipper and positive all of the time? Not complaining, cause it helps, just wondering
Most of the time I can stay positive, but I let loose too, believe me, and when I am really in intractable pain, I best stay away from this and everyone. The pain is so debilitating that I am just not fit to be around, I'm unreasonable or overly sensitive, and can just be a nightmare, because until that moves back into place it is like a million pounds of pressure on the tip of my tailbone! Ever bruise your tailbone, well it is like it is being crushed! Wow, confession time is here! LOL!
My little grandson and great grandson beg to come and when this tail bone kicks up, from the stenosis I won't, I don't have the usual patience and grace! I don't want to be the raving, screaming grandmother, I want to be the calm loving one!
I have started Enbrel, and it is making a difference in how I feel, my Chiropractor, who knows my back better than anyone on earth, told me he noticed such a fantastic difference. That man has seen me at my worst, believe me! My husband has carried me in there sobbing!! The Enbrel is helping this Psoriatic arthritis that is chewing up every cell of my body!
There are times when the kids want to come, and maybe the pain is not it's worst, but I just don't feel that great, I go in take a bath, shampoo, soak, take my meds, take a walk, exercise, and I tell myself that TODAY may be as good as I will ever feel the rest of my life, what will I do with this day, and if I possibly can, I get my act together and call for someone to bring the kids down, many times my husband gets them for me, and he and my Mom help with them!
Even though my husband looked high and low for a car for me to be comfortable in with an ultra smooth ride and really comfortable seats, every bump, patch, pot hole and pebble just kill my back, so here I am! Good thing I like my house, but it gets OLD, believe me!
I have had some very dark days myself, I pulled out, and try to stay in the sunshine instead! My Chiropractor told me that if this Spinal cord stimulator would work, I would not feel any or next to no pressure or pain. So I am 'picking brains on that'! Even wondering if I could just get the nerves Cut, bit refuse the burning of the nerves, they can forget that, because by the time you heal from it you have to go back again, I want something better!
Anyway, there's some of my story!
Were you injured, or is your disc problem from a type of arthritis?
BTW, as you can see, sleep is a big problem for me, you too, I guess!
Sending my best,
SK
Think hard about the stimulator. Have you used the little one with 4 wires and pads? Can't think of the name fibro moment. When I was at the hospital 1 day a lady had one put in and said it hurt worse now and she was having it taking out. My buddy is a rep for medtronic and the have the pain med pump thing and the stimulator. He has tried to get me to use them and I just can't see it. If you get the rx pump no break trough meds, and having a stimulator going 24/7?
No, I have not tried it, I am very concerned because the TENS shoots me off the table on low, so I cannot tolerate it. This is supposed to be simialr, but doesn not do the same thing.
This is the first bad thing I have heard about it, but I thought you had a control on this stimulator, where you could turn it off, on, up, down? Am I wrong, is it like the pain pump, where you have no control?
I have heard many people tell me that the pain pump sucks, that you never have enough until your time is up! I do not take narcatics unless the pain is boardering unbearable, so don't think I want a pain pump, unless I get another ulcer, I want to decide when I want it and as long as I can still take a pill, don't want to get cut open!
Yeah, another decent morning! I hope everyone is doing well. I have come to love the mornings because I feel better in the morning and at least I can accomplish something before the pain gets bad.
Had a huge fight with husband last night. I just feel like he doesn’t listen and respond to my needs and I get tired of saying the same thing over and over. I am usually such a calm and rational person but when I blow, I really blow. LOL. MBP-P mad is not a pretty picture. Anyway, got it out of my system and felt a little better.
Depression is a crazy thing. When it sneaks up out of the blue, no one can understand. Many years ago I struggled with depression for no perceivable reason. Took meds and got better. Since I started having symptoms of FM, I got really down because I knew something was wrong and I thought the worse- brain tumor, etc. Now that I know it is FM, I have bad days or even just bad hours, but I find myself not being as depressed because I know what is wrong.
Educating myself about what all FM means is scary and can be depressing but it is also somewhat of a comfort to know that I am NOT crazy and that there is something that can sort of be done about it. Don’t get me wrong, I would not wish this on my worst enemy and I am scared about facing a lifetime of dealing with this but it is what it is and I will keep fighting it.
Keeping my mind occupied helps, even if it is just watching tv, which I never did before. There are so many people out there that are way worse off than me and I am blessed to be able to enjoy this gorgeous day that God has given us and to keep on going with a smile on my face( at least a majority of the time).
Gentle hugs and thank you all for the good info and sharing.
These girls always help with my depression! Tulip the dog and Sassy the cat. They are best buds.
1926-IMG_0493.JPG (1.88 MB) 1927-IMG_0489.JPG (1.39 MB) 1928-Suchalady001.JPG (2.01 MB)Sounds like my night. Lori told me she could not go through another round of my bad deep depression. Like I can control it. I took a xanax and went for a drive. Been up all night cant sleep. This sucks.
MBP-P your pictures are great. I need to locate my iPad adapter for my camera. I have a Pom, Rat Terrier, and a Yorkie- C.B., Rudy, and Leila. They are on the bed with me all the time. Well, the 4 lb Yorkie stays under the bed rolled up in one of the baby blankets I have gotten her. They do bring joy to your life if you can afford to keep them.
They look like they would be good buddies to you! With all of the kids in and out of here, my god daughter has 5 kids, we have 7 grandkids between us, then with nieces and nephews, and a great grand son, We decided that they would be all the 'pets' we could handle! But I love animals!
Thanks for sharing the photos, Mike and Maria, thanks for helping her get those on!
She's beautiful, and lucky to have you too!
Ariestlt, she’s gorgeous. I didnt get to have kids either and my many nieces and nephews are far away. They are my babies and spoiled rotten!
Tricky, I would love to see your babies. Yes, they bring a lot of joy and I have cut back on a lot of things but I don’t know that I could ever think about not having them in my life.
Hope you all are having a wonderful day and finding many reasons to smile!
Brian, I am so sorry. I think a lot of people are under the misimpression that we can control the FM and the depression. My husband told me that I chose to stay in bed all the time. I wanted to kick him in his ***. I try to be patient with him but I would like the same in return! Yeah, it sucks but life is sweet.
Hey Susie...I am also on Enbrel for many years for my RA. It is a very good drug. Best of luck with it.
they are so cute, mbp-p....and they look as if they get along.
