I hope everybody has a pain free Christmas as possible, take help when offered, this I have a problem with so I have been practicing exp."Can I help you with something...or call me when you need me" learn to say yes!!
So a very Merry Christmas to all my friends on here
Hugs
Vicky
Merry Christmas to you, Vicky.
Good advice and well taken. Our day today is pretty low key. Nice tho.
Hugs to you,
Kitty
Merry Christmas Vicky
You are not the only one who has to learn to say Yes, I need some help. Thank you so much for offering. That makes the person who offered the help glad that they did.
But it is important to take the help when offered. And if it isn't offered we needs to be able to say I could use some help here.......if we want to eat this meal today.
I am really glad that you started this discussion, Vicky.
Gentle hugs
Rachel
I am sorry to say that I did not heed my own advice and when I finally asked for help it was too late. So there goes my advice, I have been in bed since Christmas night with severe back pain, and upset at myself, oh well will have to keep trying.
Hi Vicky-so sorry to hear about your pain. If it's any consolation, I did the same thing you did. I hosted Christmas this year and prepped everything I needed to make before hand. However, every single person that was suppose to bring something fell through. I ended up having to double up on my sides and make two other dishes while everyone was here. By the end of the night I could barely stand and could have fallen asleep on the table!! To top it off, my sister and her kids would not leave until midnight! I could barely walk the next day and have been suffering since. I guess asking for help doesn't always work-lesson learned on my end.
Hope you are feeling better real soon!!
Oh my goodness, Sue, that will be a Christmas you won't forget. Your body is hurting and reminding you every hour! It's too bad the people who did not bring what they had said they would did not go to the store and buy something........at the deli.
I wonder how we could handle people who just don't leave? People who don't suffer from chronic illnesses and PAIN just have no concept of what we go through. I am astounded that you even knew your name by the end of that evening!! Your body will take some time to recover from that Christmas.
I just can't imagine people coming without what they said they would bring. It would have been an interesting meal to eat with all that was missing!! I'm not sure that would have embarrassed those people if they could come without their promised dish!! My goodness some people can be thoughtless.
Oh Vicky, I'm sorry about your back pain, but even without the back pain your body would tell you that you need to stay in bed for likely more than one day to recover from Christmas. It's really hard on those of us with chronic illnesses and PAIN.
Just the flurry of extra people around me is too much. Perhaps that is because I live alone.
Christmas is becoming something that we dread rather than enjoy.
Stay in bed until you feel like getting up and then just rest or else you will be suffering for a longer time.