So, Petunia Girl brought up a good point in another discussion. Feeling pretty!
I don’t feel so pretty the last couple of months. I feel frumpy and ugly because I feel so poorly. Now, as discussed in other threads, it’s like an act of congress to get any ambition to take a shower but it definitely helps me feel better. My bf often jokes that it takes me 2 hours to get ready though…well yeah! You try getting ready and making yourself presentable when you have the flu (and that’s on a good day!)
Anyway, I have recently lost weight…like where people are starting to notice and make mention, which you think would make me feel good but it doesn’t. It just makes me feel “sick” because that’s the cause of the weight loss. I have no appetite anymore and have been losing weight because of it. Or so I’m guessing that’s the reason.
I also had my nails done lately, not something I do very often at all. I colored my hair, you’d think I’d be feeling better about myself but I just don’t!!
I decided to TRY to get out and tan a little. Supposedly the heat will make me feel better and was told I would get Vit D from the rays. We’ll see how that goes!
What is wrong with me!?
Does anyone else get this?
I try to get dressed and appear normal everyday.I started to neglect it when I stopped working and it really made me feel more grim. When I feel too badly to be in regular clothes. (jeans and a sweater) I have spent some money on stylish yoga pants and comfy but soft and fitted zip up tops. THat way I look clean and nice when I still feel like crap. It really does wonders for my spirit to have a little feeling of "i look okay" even when I feel horrid.
I got the clothes at TJMaxx for very little money. They are more comfy than baggy sweats and you can get away with being out in public in them cause people just think you came from yoga class. I do live in Portland Or where it is a free for all in the style dept.
I dont do "make up", occasionally wear some eye make up when I am feeling well and going out somewhere, like to lead a tour in the shanghai tunnels.
I can share the feeling of being "too thin". I have had a boss force me to join her for lunch cause she thought I was anorexic. At 5'7" and 120 lbs I was thin but healthy and eating...just not eating meat at the time. Anyways.
If I dont feel good...which is often. Taking a shower and making my hair look not crazy usually makes me feel a bit better about myself.
Hey girlfriend,
Yes on rare occasions, I do something with my hair, put on nice clothes and even make-up. But it's camouflage, my friend, just makes you look more like the well people!
OK, OK, it may help just a little bit!!!
Hi Tina, I totally get what you are saying !!! By the time I shower and get dressed I’m exhausted
. So i do still try and get my roots colored and maybe a pedicure. I guess we have to do what we can do to try and feel better … Seems sometimes it helps & sometimes it doesn’t
It’s crazy to think I seem to be getting comfortable with going out, with out makeup and just putting my hair up in a clip and baggy jeans … Lol.
I was reading up on chronic Fatigue and a symptom is weight loss, I am 5’5 and weight less than 120 , which is good for me , but I always thought if I wasn’t working I’d gain wt and so far I have lost & not gained.
I think with chronic pain and fatigue it’s just really hard to feel good… No matter how we look
I have been so fatigued this winter I finally tried a small dose of adderall and it’s actually helping, I took a shower, got dressed and went to the store all in one day … Yaaa
Hugs & blessings
dee
Tina, it's kind of hard to feel "pretty" when we feel "sh!tty." Even if our exterior looks nice, our mind and interior is hurting, so that kind of spoils it for us. I think that maybe we start feeling like we ARE the illness after a while, like it and we are one because it is so interwoven into the basic fibers of our life. And all I can picture when I say that is the alien in the movie "Alien" with Sigourney Weaver in it. This humongously ugly thing with tentacles everywhere feeding off of us. That's kind of what I think I look like, anymore, the end result of that thing sucking off of me, at the very least.
Okay, I think I'm rambling from lack of sleep.
Some extra vitamin D is always a good idea. Hope you enjoyed soaking up some sun outside!
Lyra, yours is a good philosophy. You're right, nice clothes make me feel better about myself, and so does the shower and hair care. But especially the clothes. Comfy ones, but nice ones too, so you can still feel good in them. Thanks for pointing this out.
Hi, Tina, I have the same problem. I lost 50 lbs. When I feel good I sometimes gain 5 or 10 back, only to lose it again. The docs didn't believe me that it's connected to the fibro. What do I know? I know when I'm in a lot of pain I get sick to my stomach. First thing they did was remove my gallbladder, made no difference what so ever.As to feeling prretty, forget it, impossible when you feel lousy. Plus, I'm 53 and look just like my mom did at 73. Bags under eyes, wrinkles I never had before fibro. I was always so young looking, people never believed I had kids as old as I did. That doesn't happen anymore. I also can't wear makeup now, my eyes are so dry and painful from srojens makeup makes them worse. I really just can't make myself care anymore. Sorry, I guess I'm not helping, it's turned into a pity party. Don't forget your sunscreen, and feel better soon. Hugs Charlie :)
Thanks to everyone!
John has been gone since Tuesday and he’s coming home in a few hours.
I admit I have been lazy and haven’t done much housework and everytime he comes home, I feel like I have to clean up and make sure I take a shower and try to look pretty. Ugh!
Well, the past few hours I have been trying to clean and now I need to take a shower and am lucky after cleaning and cooking dinner for my son…I’m whipped! I am struggling to force myself to go do it, so I am off to my torture chamber! Yuck
I definitely feel you Charlie…I can sometimes look okay but then I see the bags under my eyes, the wrinkles and think what happened to me? My face is getting thin making the bags worse I think. I used to get “you don’t look that old” now I definitely don’t! Oh well!
I have been living in my yoga clothes for a week now. But I am so glad to have them. Before fibro, I was a designer clothes and styled hair everyday.
Portland allowed me to have a quirky style, so dont think real housewives or anything like that. I often do feel down that i just cant do it anymore.
Today I had to re dye my hair. I have a modeling gig coming up and needed the black and red stripes back in. I feel like I have been working for a week straight. Foggy, confused, pain everywhere, short temper, ugh. But the hair will look great at the event in about 10 days.
I had to work out special seating for this modeling job. Thankfully they have enough of us to do only 4 hr shifts.
I heard people mention the shower alone causes fatigue. I can totally relate. I have had to rest for over an hour just from the shower and then my hair was huge wreck from drying without styling. Welcome my hat collection. I just wear hats now when this happens and I find that everyone is complimenting me with them on. (i get asked if I knit them myself...and I honest admit that I buy them on etsy.com)