Hi everyone,, I haven't been on a while as I've ben dealing with my mom who is now at home under hospice care. Mom is 81 and ever of an is failing but the worst part is the copd. Its sl difficult to watch her live trying and gasping fir each breath. I have not been taking my meds because if I do I cant be here with her. Please say a prayer for her. Hugs Jackie
Hi, Jackie. We haven’t met yet; I probably joined while you were away and it’s nice to meet you. I’m glad you came by so that we can help lift your spirits while you are dealing with this. I’m so sorry for you and your mom. I lost my Dad this year, and it was really tough to see. Even, so it’s tough to imagine a loved one suffering through COPD like that.
I’ll keep you and your mom in my thoughts. If you need anything at all (a friend, someone to vent to, whatever) let me know and I’ll do my best to help. Remember to take care of you too.
hi Jackie.. I know how heavy your heart is and i surely will pray and send positive and loving thoughts your way for you , your mom and the loved ones. I lost my mom and dad not too long ago as well. I am glad you came here to let us know so we can be here for you during this ever so difficult and sad time. HUGGGGGGGGGGGS
Suzie
Hi Jackie,
I am sorry to hear how poorly your mom is doing. It is a very difficult and stressful time to provide end of life care to a parent. I found myself doing that for both parents and really understand what you are going through. I send you positive thoughts, and lots and lots of hugs. Please remember that as it is important to be supportive of your mom right now, it is also very important to look after yourself. Please speak to your doctor to see if they can help you get the medications to help you with your symptoms while still helping you be there for your mom. Please keep us in the loop, as we want to be here for you. You are not alone. Hugs!
Hey Jackie. I will offer up a prayer for your mother as well as a prayer for you! What medications are you referring to that you cannot take AND take care of your mom? I'm thinking that it isome sort of muscle relaxer? Can I offer a suggestion that perhaps you can take half the dosage during the day if you are taking care of your mom? That way, the effects won't be as dibillitating. Also, aside from the hospice worker, is there someone else like a sibling, spouse, ex-spoise who loved your mom, kids, nephews or neices, etc that can watch her for the time after you take your medication so you can still get some much needed relief?
My mother's lifelong best friend was given the diagnoses of stage four lung cancer about three months ago. Last month, her doctor gave her six months to a year to live. A hospice worker comes twice a week to do the things her husband can't or won't do. I known him my whole life and wouldn't be surprised to find our that he uses a portable urinal to avoid standing up to use the bathroom. I mean, this man is one of the laziest people I've ever met...after his daughter who refuses to come home to visit with her dying mother because, now get this, "it is too depresing to see her and it just ruins her day." The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, right?
Based on your email, it sounds similar to the situation that your mother is experincing. So my question is this - if you have a hospice worker coming in X days a week, why can't you take your medication on those days? Are you still needed on those days? I would think that is an excellent time to take care of yourself!!!!!
Jackie, it is crucial that you do the things that YOU NEED TO DO FOR YOURSELF. If you don't take care of yourself, who is going to?
Please know that I am thinking of you and I added your mother and you to my nightly prayer list of people I ask God to look after and put under his umbrella (that way, you can huddle up with God, dry in the rain while the masses get wet).
Please, please, please take care of yourself.
Marc
I will be thinking of you and your family Jackie.
Hello Jackie. Sorry to hear about your mom. Gentle hugs and prayers for you both in your time of need. May the Lord help you and give you the strength you need to help her and may He comfort her.
Hi Jackie, gentle hugs! I am so sorry, losing / watching a loved one struggle is awful. I went thru it with my mom when I was in my teens years ago and I empathize with what you are going thru. I want you to know I am praying for her and you and I want you to take care of yourself as well! Hugs!!!!!!!
HI Jackie, I am just checking in to see how you are doing? I know this is a very difficult time and you are in my thoughts. HUGS!!!!!!
Hi Dear. I know your mom is ailing, but you need to care for yourself too. Prayers for her and for you. May god bless you both.
Hey all, I just wanted to give you an update on my situation with my mom. The nurses say she will continue with good and bad days, it is a constant struggle for her to breathe. I have to say she is one tough cookie, and it kills me to see her struggle so to breathe. I do Thank God for each day with her, however a part of me wishes that she can pass easily in her sleep! I don't know if I can watch or want to see her take her last breathe. Its just a very sad situation. Then to top it all off my pcp, called me late Friday evening to tell me that both my last urine and bllod came back for the 3rd time abnormal. Its off to see the urinologist, and immunologist at John Hopkins in Baltimore Md. They say God doesn't give you more than you can handle, but geez. I don't know to be much stronger. Sending gentle hugs to all,
Hi Jackie, I am so sorry and I have been and will continue to pray for you and your mom / family. I echo what Lovett said, hopefully this is just an infection or something easily cleared up. HUGS!!!!!
Today is yet one more day that God has allowed me to spend with my mom and 5 sisters! I know the end if her life is eminent as today she told us of a beng who covers her feet when she is cold and is always there watching over her, and although I want to be selfish, and keep her here. I know that she struggles for each breath so much so she doesnt want to drink because of having to get out if her bed to p..I have never been as sad as I am these days. I am doing mybest to take care of me, but I need to spend every minute posible with my mom. I fear of going to my disability hearing on Wed as If she passes while I'm there, I don't know if I will be able to forgive myself. I just pray, that the hearing is quick so that I can get back to her, I want to be there for. Her as she has always been there for me. Thank you all or the prayers nd words of encouagement. Gentle hugs to all, Jackie. I will do my best o keep you updated.
Today is yet one more day that God has allowed me to spend with my mom and 5 sisters! I know the end if her life is eminent as today she told us of a beng who covers her feet when she is cold and is always there watching over her, and although I want to be selfish, and keep her here. I know that she struggles for each breath so much so she doesnt want to drink because of having to get out if her bed to p..I have never been as sad as I am these days. I am doing mybest to take care of me, but I need to spend every minute posible with my mom. I fear of going to my disability hearing on Wed as If she passes while I'm there, I don't know if I will be able to forgive myself. I just pray, that the hearing is quick so that I can get back to her, I want to be there for. Her as she has always been there for me. Thank you all or the prayers nd words of encouagement. Gentle hugs to all, Jackie. I will do my best o keep you updated.
Jackie, I have you and your family in my prayers. I hope you are able to be kind to yourself as well during this very stressful time. HUGS!!!!!
Thank you, I'm getting very nervous for Wednesday and my disability hearing! Praying all goes well. My attorney says he feels very strongly it will be quick and altough he cant give me a 100% assurance he said he is 99.9% positive the outcome will be favourable. Thank you for the prayers! I think from all the stress that I'm headed for a major flare. I have pain everywhere to the point I want to scream. Pain meds here I come, hugs jackie
Thank you!
Hi Jackie,
I understand what you are going thru as I went thru it with both of my parents. I need to repeat what several others have already said and that is, please take care of yourself during this very stressful time. You and your family are in my thoughts and daily prayers. Please keep us posted on how things are going.
Thanks,
Jackie S (Donna)
Hi Jackie. My prayers & thoughts are with you both. Hugs x