Hi Melissa. You are such a good person. You have sacrificed way too much for your daughter-in-law and her family. You are pouring all of your good energy and good health out all over the place. The thing I worry about when people get in the place where you are is, will your health ever recover from this? You have to take care of you. The world needs you around !
Do call the # and talk with someone. They can give you advice and information. I am pretty sure this d.i.l. of yours doesn't have a leg to stand on. YOU call the police. At least call the advice # and hear what they have to say.
When our daughter, her husband and the 4 grandsons were living with us I thought it was going to kill me. I really did. I love those grandboys more than anything, but there is no consistency and tons of chaos. Their stay ended in an extremely huge blow up and we ended up pressing charges against our daughter. Things are better now, but it got really ugly. Let me tell you though, that is where the healing began. We who give all to help others give too much. They will never learn to stand on their own feet if you are supporting them.
Love you girl. You do the next right thing ~ for you and for them. Nothing will make them responsible faster than being out on their own. Even if they sleep in a tent in someones yard for awhile. Don't worry about them once they're gone. Just take care of you !
Thank you Kitty for your care and love I’ve been down four days now doctor put me back on steroids today because no relief thanks to my husbands daughter and her husband and family we are being evicted now every day something else goes wrong and as I go through this pain physical and emotionally I’am alone my husband not on board kitty you know this from past I just pray things will get better I also have my husbands other two children I’am raising if you remember and all of this chaos causes more issues for them and I just don’t have energy to deal no longer I love you for you thinking of me how are you doing my love hope your doing better love and hugs mel
There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Even if you have to put it there yourself. Make it divine light. There, many find Gods love. Then with that pattern, embroider a loving life for themselves.
I've been working on this premise for decades. Because the alternative is usually very bleak. Fortunately or unfortunately I am beging to believe/revile that I am manifesting a life of hermitage. In moments of great pain, I give myself over to God to heal me. FM has taught me surrender. I'm surely not saying it would work in you situation though. Just make sure you're sufficently taken care of. The one thing you CAN say about people is that they are selfish 87% of the time. Adjust expectations. Know that I do this in love. I'm hurting too.
(((HUGS))) As hard as it is for you you need to get that house under control for your own sanity. The daughters been there for 9 months and she has a husband. It's time they found a place of their own. Tell them they have 30 days. (I would also call the courts to see if you needed to legally evict them or not) It's not going to get easier. If need be call the cops!
I'm sorry but the daughter made me so angry I just wanted to shake her and yell what's wrong with you! I hate people who take advantage of others!! Because I don't have any advice that probably won't make it worse :) I'm sending you hugs and my thoughts are with you!