So, about a month ago I went to emergency for stomach pain (I thought it was probably just usual gallbladder pain) and it ended up to be a 10cm bone. No, I dont regularly (or ever) swallow things that cannot be digested… but somehow without recollection, I swallowed this bone and it punctured my bowel. I have a feeling it may have been because I was way overly tired from trying to work? Maybe brainfog had something to do with it? Idk. Had surgery and am now pretty much recovered.
Anyway even though I’m recovered, my body still wants to sleep for wayyyy longer than I used to and I’m in so much general fibro pain all the time. This weekend my hens night is on and I am DREADING it! Honestly if my close friends and family hadn’t already put money into it I would cancel. I’m so stressed about this because I don’t do well when I’m feeling like this in social situations let alone with alcohol too.
Then there’s the wedding. Oh boy. I feel as though I’m not going to enjoy it and i’m so upset at myself for that. It’s meant to be a day of pure joy and happiness, not worrying about if you’re going to have to take opioids that knock you out because you’re in too much pain!!!
Of course i’m still going to try my best to enjoy these next few weeks, it’s just made me painfully aware of all the good things/experiences that I’ve lost(or have changed for the worse) in my life because of fibro.
Thanks for listening x
Wow, Rosellas!
You’ve been through a LOT! I’m so sorry this happened to you, but I’m glad that you are recovering. You have your bachelorette party this weekend?! I truly hope that you can enjoy it. Do you have a close friend that you can confide in and stay close to while you are out with everyone? Try not to stress - Maybe you will be surprised & enjoy the time with family and friends. I really hope so!
Hon, your fiancé loves you, and realizes that you are dealing with pain. I believe there will still be joy and happiness - even if it isn’t the picture perfect affair that you pictured in your mind. Sometimes the “not perfect” weddings are the best and most memorable.
Yes - fibro robs us all of much - But you will have the love of your life by your side through the next few weeks and the years ahead. Lean on him. Let him be your strength when it is gone. Sit and rest when you need to & be kind to yourself. You are a beautiful & brave girl
Yes, and who can “protect” you, look after you, take you aside regularly before it’s too late, or (someone else?) subtly take over the main focus of attention… - praps if you’re plucky enough to push thru with such a different, necessary kind, *your kind of party, you can make it into a memorable one in a positive sense. (“It’s my party, I can “go” if I want to…”)
And keep it as short as possible on your part… (Provocatively: One hour? Two?) Let them start before and go on after if necessary…? Try to make it short sharp quality time…?
Thank you. Unfortunately I dont feel as though I have any friend who can understand my condition enough to properly confide in about any of this. Though I know my sisters will probably try to check in on me at least😊
The wedding will be joyful and lovely, and my fiance will definitely be there for me on the day as he is every day (I feel like I rely on him way too much haha!) I just hope I dont have regrets on one of the best days of my life:persevere:
I dont know who can really protect me, but at least some of the girls will be much louder than me so maybe I can have a break. Unfortunately i have no hand in what’s planned for me so I think it will go on a lot longer than I’d like. Maybe I’ll go escape in a taxi after I’ve had enough
Hey, Rosellas,
When you can, let us know how things are going and how the bachelorette party went. I’m praying you are having an enjoyable time leading up to (and including) your wedding and that you are able to take some breaks and rest. Take care of yourself, sweet girl!
Thank you for checking in! The hens was quite exhausting but recovery time wasnt nearly as bad as I thought, I had one friend reconnect with me at the event and she said some very kind words that made me feel very supported in my illness.
I got married on friday and I had a great time! Pain did slow me down but at the same time I didnt want the night to end. I’m definitely feeling it though, this week will be tough, mostly stuck to the couch with the new husband looking after me Maybe I’ll be able to do something fun with him on the weekend.
Congratulations, Rosellas & new Hubby!
I’m so glad that you were able to enjoy, both, the pre-wedding celebrations and the happy event! Wishing you both a beautiful life together! One thing to remember - Any stress in your life, including the good things, will indeed tire you, both mentally and physically. But, it sounds like you are coping well - So VERY happy for you!
Goodness, Rosellas! You’ve had quite a few weeks. I’m thankful you’re continuing to recover and that you were able to enjoy your special day. Congratulations to y’all! I’m thankful you have a hubby that cares for you. I’ve been married for over 36 years now and mine is the best. It’s hard to be married to someone with a chronic illness, and I have to remind myself of this occasionally. Praying that you are feeling even better now and that you have many wonderful years together!
Maybe I’ll be able to do something fun with him on the weekend.
Congrats & all the best for your great new life together…