i have not wanted to date with all my medical issues. i hate making plans and having to cancel.
well this guy i know from church as wanted to date me for a long time. he lives with a family in my church and the women he lives with is kinda like a 2nd mother to me and has been trying to get me to go out with him. he was a lot of good quilities and is very kind and respectful. we have been friends for awhile but i had no intrest in dating anyone for along time.
so he got ahold of me on face book and we talked for a long time and i finally said i would go out with him. that was monday and wed night i ended up in the er with terriable leg pain that had been getting worse over the course of the week along with swelling in my foot. he came up to the hospital with me and stayed with me the whole time and suprised me by having his own questions for the dr.
last night he asked me to come over for dinner and even though i didnt feel good i went. turned out great. he walked me to my car and he held me for a long time and eventually kissed me not a real kiss but a kiss. i didnt want to leave. it felt so good to be held again. its been about 7 years since i have been in a relationship.
i am still not sure about the whole dating thing with all my health problems but he seems very understanding and willing to make things work and help me anyway he can. i am just scared that it will end up being to much for him. he is used to dealing with others with health problems and i have been very honest about everything i go through. i didnt sugar coat anything. i guess time will tell. but for now i am excited.
he is also very intrested in knowing more about the health problems i have and wants to go to dr appts with me. i know it really early on but i cant help thinking he may be the one. i believe God has someone for each of us. at age 30 i am ready for a serious relationship not just dating men. i am not going to make any decions until we get to know each other.
i am just so excited that i have a guy willing to date me with everything i go through. he is supposed to come over tonight after he gets off work. i cant wait. i feel like i am a teen wanting to count down the hours till i see him tonight. thankfully i have a busy day so hopefully the time will pass quickly
So pleased for you, everyone needs support and you have found someone you think may be right for you, it is great that he is interested in your problems. Hope you find the support you want with your new guy.
Don't be afraid of having a relationship with him. Too many people don't think about what the future may hold for them. He's willing to be with you knowing what your problems are. My daughter-in-law has MS and my son knew before he started dating her. He told me that he is very aware of what things will be like for them and he isn't afraid of it. He feels God was preparing him to be with someone with health problems seeing and being around me while he was growing up. They've now been married 3 yrs and have an 18 month old little girl.
Well that is excellent news, I Eeyore! He sounds like a lovely man, from what little I've heard of him. I honestly think that it works best when we get together with a friend rather than a guy we've just met. That's my opinion, anyway.
In terms of disappointing him by missing dates, maybe you could start out by having dates starting at your home and then somewhere else if you feel well enough that same evening. So you could ask him for a beer and pizza at your house, for instance, then go out for a movie, if you're feeling okay. ER visitis, well just call him and let him know where you are. Can't do much more than that, can you?
I hope it works out very well for you. Having a nice person who believes in you and supports you is wonderful.
That is so exciting. Allow yourself to enjoy this. Get to know him. He sure sounds like a nice guy. If he has feelings for you and he knows you have health problems that is sure a good start. I wonder if he's had people in his life with any kind of chronic illness? Take your time and enjoy this. It's a gift.
I hope the trip goes well for you, Lyra. Don't worry ahead of time. Enjoy the time away. My fatigue gets so much better when I take a vacation with my husband. It doesn't happen often. When you leave your life stress behind and go on vacation you may get good relief. Let me know!
Ok this is by far the best decision I have made in a long time. Jason is every thing I wanted and more. He takes my breath away with every kiss. He rubs my back and feet. So far we have not gone on a date but he has been coming over after work.
We have had several late nights talking. Tuesday night I feel asleep in his arms. He didn’t wake me and I got a great nights sleep. I will get a pic up for u all to see.
Thank you all for your support.
Well that's extremely nice to hear. Sounds like you're both hitting it off quite well. And I think you could count your late night talks as dates. At home dates. And you like his mom too. That's sure important!
Yes, please include a picture. One with the both of you would be even better than one of him alone. I mean, I hope you look like more than a sad faced donkey with one ear up and one ear down, cute as Eeyore may be! :-D
This is WONDERFUL!! I can relate because I felt like a ‘burden’ to my husband and we are now separated… HE didn’t have a problem with my condition, but I did… I didn’t feel like I could BE the wife he deserved and it led me to TONS of guilt… Remember, love comes in MANY forms… My husband and I are slowly getting back together… We have been married 18 years… Don’t let guilt get in the way of TRUE love!!
Wishing you all the best,
Diana
PRAYERS- HUGS - I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU. This guy sounds like a keeper. Take it sow and steady. Its wonderful he wants to be a part of your life and your fibro journey. <3
Awww how cute!! So pleased for you! You really deserve some happiness and excitement with all you go through. He sounds just right for you and I hope that he is the one too.
I was lucky like you right months ago and everything continues to get better and better every day and every week. I hope you have the same great big warm feeling inside too. It makes every day so worth fighting for even more.
I had a great day with my boyfriend. We had lots of smiles and laughs.
The bad thing is that my step dad decided to make a huge deal because I didn’t ask for him to come over. My brother has his girlfriend over all the time and she spends the night. I have to ask at my age just to have my boyfriend over yo spend time with. I could see if o wanted himvto stay over my step dad would like to know. My brother gets away with murder just because he is my step dads kid. I can’t wait to b out of the house. I might have to get out before I get an apartment and stay with someone for a couple of months.
I finally have some one great and my step dad has to try to ruin it by starting a fight and put my mom in a bad place.
Jason is just the sweetest guy. He is always wanting to do whatever he can to make me feel better. He texts me all the time just because. He has made smile and laugh more than I ever have. I love being around him. He makes me feel so good.
Well sorry I went off I am just so pissed at my step dad.
Jo, that's such a wonderful thing! It's always so lovely to hear of people falling in love, especially young ones. I'm sure your boyfriend does make it easier to bear the fibro. Or at least gives you one more reason to fight it. You go, girl!
I keep losing my reply to you, Eeyore. Everytime I hit the letter 't', something weird seems to happen - I get thrown out of this reply and end up in a new tab or something else. And I can't get back to my reply, as it's gone.
So, I'm going to just say briefly that I hope you and Jason have a nice rest of the weekend together. If you're well enough, maybe the two of you could go on a nice, romantic walk or something. This lovely weather is perfect for romance.
What wonderful news - apart from the 'step-dad situation’
I understood your reservation about getting into any type of relationship given your medical problems, but it sounds to me like you have made it completely clear how you are affected by it, and how your symptoms can be variable.
I feel, as long as you are open and honest then anyone who decides to enter your life are making an informed decision!!! and it sounds as though he has done some research of his own - which is fantastic.
A previous member mentioned ‘guilt’ and how it affected her relationship, I too have faced those feelings, but after discussing it with my counsellor, she made me realise that although I have my limitations I do bring alot to my/our relationship, and that we should never consider that we have nothing/little to offer.
It’s taken me some time to ‘get it’ but I hold on to that view, and I know now that just being there at the end of the day to offer support and love and companionship to James is enough for him.
I wish you every success in your relationship - he sounds like a good one!!!
Bev
well my boyfriend ended up having to take me to the er sunday. i ended up having severe adominal pain that got worse over several hours. we ended up being up all night. i went back to his house and slept most of the day and when i got up he made me dinner. i was only awake for a few hours before passing out for the night.
i ended up not coming home for 2 days. he made sure i was ok. he took such good care of me the whole time. the er had no idea what is wrong with me and i am still not feeling good but better than i was. the pain has not been as intense. last night he lnsisted on holding me till i feel asleep. it was so nice to fall asleep in his arms.
i know it may be early but we have already talked about getting married. we have been friends for 7 years but just started dating 4-16. he will b 33 this june and i turned 30 in november. so many of his friends have told him to hurry and get a ring on me. my bff is happy for us too. the other night some how having kids came up and we already have a boys name picked out. i already knew what i wanted for a boys name and so did he. we both wanted to name the boy after our dads. his dad has passed away. so hopefully we will have a son in the near future and his name will be Kenneth Lee. for a girls name all we know is we want a unique name.
i never thought i could love someone like i love Jason. he makes me feel so special and loved. my family has seen a huge difference in how i am. i almost always have a smile on my face. i thought i was in love years ago with the last guy i dated but how i feel with Jason is completly different. its been going on 3 weeks and he still takes my breath away when he kisses me.
well that is about it for now. he is going with me thursday to my disability hearing. i will be on thursday night to let everyone know what happens.