TODAY SUXED BIG TIME. SO TIRED OF REPEATING MY SELF CUZ HUBBY CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT I SAID. SO TIRED OF YELLING CUZ HE DIDN'T HEAR ME. SO TIRED OF CHACEING HIM AROUND THE PROPERTY CUZ HE HAS A PHONE CALL. SO NOW I SAY I'LL HAVE HIM CALL YOU BACK , I DON'T KNOW WHERE HE IS HALF THE TIME.TIRED OF HAVING MY LIFE RUN FOR ME. IF I DON'T EAT MY MEAT HE COMMENTS. IF I SAY SOMMTETHIG HE CORRECTS ME. MY KIDS COMMING THE 3 OF JUNE FOR A MONTH. I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN DO IT. I WANTED TO GO TO TOYS ARE US BUY A TEDDY BEAR FOR MY NEW GRANDDAUGHTER , SHE THREE. HAVEN'T SEEN HER IN TWO YEARS.WE WILL SEE HE SAYS. SO GUESS IT GONNA BE THE BLANKET I CROCHED FOR HER.AND IT GOES ON AND ON. I WANT QUIET AND LEFT ALONE. I AM HAPPY WITH JUST ME AND MY PUTER AND T/V. ON THE OTHER HAND HUBBY GOES OUT EVERY G/D DAY TO WALL MART. HE MAY AS WELL LIVE THERE. IF I WANT TO GO ON A HOLIDAY HE HUMS AND HAWS CUZ I GOT SICK LAST TIME AND COST A FORTUNE, WELL MEDICAL PAID FOR IT. NO OUT OF POCKET EXPENCE FOR HIM. IF I WENT ANY PLACE THOUGH I NEED EXTRA COVERAGE CUZ I HAVE A LIST OF PROBLEMS.THAT IS THE ONLY TIME I WOULD LOVE TO LEAVE HOME IS FOR A HOLIDAY. DO MEN GET THIS WAY WHEN THEY GET OLDER OR WHAT. I WOULD BE HAPPY IF HE JUST STOPPED TRYING TO PROVE HIS MALE EGO.ALL I ASK IS HE TELL ME HE IS GOING AND WITH WHO. IN CASE SOMETHING HAPPENS. YES I SEE PPL EVERY WEEK AND TALK TO THEM. BUT ONLY WHO I WANT. EXCEPT MY SISTER, SHE JUST DROPS IN. WALKS IN MY HOUSE AND IN MY BEDROOM. WITHOUT BEING INVITED. IF I DID THAT TO HER I BE TOLD OFF. AND SHE FORGETS MY BIRTHDAY EVERY YEAR. I NEVER FORGET HERS, IF SHE GOING OUT OF TOWN I WILL CALL HER EARLY TO WISH HER HAPPY BIRTHDAY.i AM NOT HARD TO GET ALONG WITH HAVE THREE LIFE TIME FRIENDS BUT THEY LIVE OUT OF TOWN. STORY OF MY LIFE. I FEEL UGLY OLD AND SICK AND IN PAIN. TODAY IT WAS SAID WE GET THIS WAY OUT OF DESPERATION BECAUSE WE CANOT FIX FIBRO. SO I THINK I HAVE VENTED ENOUGH. I'M SURE I COULD GO ON BUT AM GETTING ANGRY ALL OVER. THANKS FOR LISTNING
SHIRLEY
AKA SLM
PS THIS PICTURE MAKES ME SMILE. MY HUBBYS BROTHER HAS A TEENY POT BELLY PIG WHO FOLLOWS HIM AROUND ON HIS DAY OUTSIDE. IF THE PIG LOSES SIGHT OF HIM HE GOES OINK , OINK , OINK , TILL HE FINDS HIM AGAIN. AS I SAID , EVERY TIME I THINK ABOUT IT I SMILE.
I see you as beautiful, young, well, and pain free! I'm glad you are the kind heart who remembers the birthdays of those you love. I like the idea that you respect the privacy of others, even if they are your sister, that you think enough of your husband to go and round him up for a phone call, that you want to welcome your granddaughter with gifts! I like that you feel close enough to us all to get on your 'puter' and vent away!
When my life came crashing down around me about 8 years ago after the third time I was 'rear ended' in a car accident that I just could not get over, I started falling apart. My dear friend and Chiropractor sent me to a wonderful lady who is a PhD psychologist, and I talked to her for about 2 years. Her practice is dedicated to helping others become more resilient, and she taught me that we need to treat others how we are treated by them. To stop bending over backward when it is not returned, to speak up when something does not suit us, and be able to do it reasonably and somewhat politely, instead of letting it build up to the point of 'exploding'!
I had never taken part in such an exchange with a professional, and I tell you, it did me the world of good! I still hear her words of wisdom ringing in my ears.
Hopefully when your Granddaughter comes, your child will gladly take you to Wal-Mart to get her a teddy bear, or to choose something that you would like to give to her!
Be good to yourself, my friend, you are such a nice lady, you deserve nothing less! I am sure that you are a great mother, wife, sister and friend. Just don't wear yourself out for others when there is another way. Stress only ever makes us worse, and you deserve to be as well and as happy as you possibly can!
I like you and really care about you, so please, be good to my friend Shirley!
TY FOR YOUR KIND WORDS SK. IT BROUGHT TEARS TO MY EYES. I AM ADRAID I HSVE NO USE FOR SHRINKS. I FEEL WHEN THE PHD WERE PASSES OUT THEY DID NOT CUT THE MUSTARD. SO THEY ENDED UP A SHRINK. PLUS YOU GIVE A MEDICALGRADUATE A CERTIFIC AND THEY HAVE A MIND THAT THEY KNOW IT ALL. SORRY, BUT I WAS IN GROUP THERPY ONCE , ONLY THING I LIKED WERE THE PEOPLE. WHEN MY CHILDREN WERE GROWING UP WE HAD A PROBLEM [SERIOUS ] PROBLEM WITH MY OLDEST CHILD. I HAD A COUNSLER I GUESS WHAT THEY CALLED HIM. HE COUNSLED ME NOT THE CHILD. I HAD ASKED FOR HELP FOR HIM.SO NEEDLESS TO SAY. ANY WAY THANK YOU FOR YOUR WORDS OF WISDOME AND YOUR FRIENDSHIP. MEANS A LOT TO ME
Shirley, you sound like the type of person you’d like to sit down with and have coffee or a glass of tea with. You’re my kind of girl. It’s just to bad you’re not getting the support you deserve. Most men aren’t like us women. They don’t understand why it’s important to do the things we ask of them.
You sound like me. If I get out except to go to the doctor, I get sick and end up in the bed from 2-4 weeks. I know what you mean. My manfriend asks me why I bother. Well, I bother, just like you, to save my insanity! Really! You can’t allow your life to stop, but you do have to take care of yourself in between. Gentle hugs and best wishes.
Hi Shirley,
The pig pic made me laugh too. It’s very cute. I agree with what SK said. You have many good qualities that are being taken for granted. Sometimes you need to tell people what you want or don’t want in a calm but forceful way so they understand this is bothering you. Men are difficult creatures to deal with, so goodluck with that. LOL. Vent anytime you need to. The group is here for you and we do understand. Take care of yourself. Next time somebody bothers you think of the piglet with the red boots and smile.
Connie
they say we can choose our friends but not our family.
I agree so much with SK. You sound such a lovely person but you are being walked over because of it. Obviously you are not appreciated by your sister and perhaps need to treat her as she treats you. Sometimes we have to forget our own good manners and help others learn their lessons. Same with your hubby too.
I hope you don't feel I am talking out of turn as I am a newbie. But it hurts me to know people are being badly treated when they treat others with such kindness. (((((Shirley)))))).
just knowing that i am not the only one who has a man prob is comforting. i don't vent often but when i do it is terrible. my i was very forceful.thankyou for caring.
my sister is my sister. i have told her point blank on several occasions about things she dose. but the world rotates around her. but i'm going to tell her this time if she remembers not to bother as it to late. you see there is 7 years between us and i feel as if in her eyes i have never grown up. still a child to her.hun. you would never talk out of turn. thankyou for your help. every reply helps more than you know.
